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DumbGuy · Mar 13, 2009, 06:13 AM

I've got this problem with one of my female friends. I've known her for like 7 months now but the problem is that, we've been fighting over small things too many times. I find it rather immature for both of us to keep on fighting. She got this bad habit of telling white lies and because of this, we tend to argue a lot.

Another example is that, when I ask her to pass me back my book, she'll somehow delay it. In other words, she find it troublesome for herself to meet me outside to pass me her book. She even ask me to come down her house to take the book myself, which is actually quite far. I understand that she has a very tight schedule but its been a week now and she even didn't take the effort and initiative to set a time for me to collect my book. She always has this habit of making the fight as if its my fault. I admit I'm partly for the blame, mainly due that I lose my cool and scold her. But I do have my own reasons.

I told her that about our problem. She told me that what's the use of being friends if every other day we keep fighting over small things?

I'm not too sure on what to do. Can someone please enlighten me.

kctiger · Mar 13, 2009, 06:17 AM

Is your post revolving around a book? That seems to be the biggest problem here, right?

Fighting over small things, in my experience, usually means there is a bigger thing lurking in the corner, that just hasn't popped out yet. Find a way to get your book so this isn't such a huge deal... cool?

You two are arguing like a couple, not like two friends...

neverme · Mar 13, 2009, 06:24 AM

Exactly, this sounds like a couple. Maybe there is some chemistry there your both just ignoring?

Not that I think that you should get into a relationship with someone who tells lies, even white ones.

Get your book back and take some space. Maybe after some time you two can be friends again, but no point bringing drama upon yourself.

Romefalls19 · Mar 13, 2009, 06:38 AM

Wow, this is childish. Arguing over a book, get your book back and just leave this alone. Too much drama and you two aren't even dating!

talaniman · Mar 13, 2009, 08:58 AM

Friends??

DumbGuy · Mar 13, 2009, 09:29 AM

Thanks guys for the help. Its not only about a book. I admit its pretty lame to fight over a book. Another example is that, there's a time in which she kept nagging to go to school for a particular lesson, but in turn I skip that lesson and she got angry. She didn't reply to my sms in like 3 days. I just don't understand her at all.

We always argue over small childish things. I'm just being friends with her. I do go out with her once in a while, but its not dating. Not too sure about chemistry though. We really can talk about anything under the sun.

Currently, I've been giving her some space for the time being. I just want to save this friendship of mine.

talaniman · Mar 13, 2009, 09:47 AM

You need some new friends, as it seems your forcing this one.

DumbGuy · Mar 13, 2009, 10:17 AM

I do have a wide range of friends. I have a best female friend whom I known for 6 years, and I've not been having too many problems with her.

But for this current friend, its totally the opposite. I'm not too sure whether I'm forcing myself into this. I mean if there's a chance for us to be in good terms again, why not?

In any case, I'll leave it to her to decide the outcome.

Thanks.