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    beagleman Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 12, 2009, 09:07 PM
    Is my wife cheating
    We have been married for 3 years and the first 2 where great. This last year she took another job 1 hour and 30 min from home. Now she is hiding her phone from me and she has left me to go stay with her mom. She won't let me see any of her Text messages or even hold her phone is she cheating on me?
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    Mar 12, 2009, 09:09 PM

    Its always a possibility... Is there any control issues in this relationship... Trust issues are in this relationship...
    What issues have come up the past year? Has there been any communication as to why she left??
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    Mar 13, 2009, 07:07 AM

    Have you asked her about it? Don't make assumptions. Be as clear as clear can be and the only way you can do that is by asking her. Look, everyone has the right to tell you yes or no but you always have the right to ask. Ask her if she's having an affair, ask her why she's so secretive and, yes, she may get upset but if she's not willing to have an open and honest conversation, that speaks volumes.

    Remember: "When someone shows you who they are, believe them..."

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    Mar 13, 2009, 07:21 AM

    She apparently isn't happy with the relationship?

    There are clearly problems between the two of you. Which you are aware of because you have become interested in double checking her phone. Your scenerio doesn't give enough information, but she is clearly stepping away from you emotionally for one reason or another.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 08:40 PM

    Perhaps this is a question better left ask to the wife... you just got to get to the botom of it!
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    Mar 13, 2009, 09:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by beagleman View Post
    we have been married for 3 years and the first 2 where great. This last year she took another job 1 hour and 30 min from home. Now she is hiding her phone from me and she has left me to go stay with her mom. She wont let me see any of her Text messages or even hold her phone is she cheating on me?
    So for the past year she's left you to go stay with her mom. I'm a bit confused here.

    Are you two still living together? Does she come home on the weekends?
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    Jul 10, 2012, 02:19 PM
    Sounds like there's a lot of distance between you two. Are things still finacially shared? Is she still sweet with you? Have you accused her already? Your only hope is to ask her directly if she still is in love with you and wants to work on things. If she gets mad and defensive then I'm sorry sir your only way for answers is hiring a private dectective or checking phone records. If I was you I would just call her mother directly, she maybe the only one that would and could give you a straight answer if your wife won't.
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    Jul 10, 2012, 02:24 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AskAnything516 View Post
    sounds like theres a lot of distance between you two. are things still finacially shared? is she still sweet with you? have you accused her already? your only hope is to ask her directly if she still is in love with you and wants to work on things. if she gets mad and defensive then im sorry sir your only way for answers is hiring a private dectective or checking phone records. if i was you i would just call her mother directly, she maybe the only one that would and could give you a straight answer if your wife wont.

    This is from 2009 - I'm sure the people have worked it out.

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