[Guesterday]

My girlfriend and I have been together for more than a year. Recently she broke up with me, and later told me within a week period that she wants to get back together. I asked her reasons she wanted to break. She said that she was wasting my time, was not mature enough, and needed sometime.

I've gone through the waves of breaking up, and now getting back together is kind of a weird feeling. When we got back together, she said she wanted to slow down on the relationship. I'm totally confused, because I don't see her much, maybe twice a week for a couple hours, because we are so busy with school.

What should I do? How could I slow down the relationship anymore. I'm giving her a lot of space. What's the best thing for me to do now? I'm very confused, and I really love her a lot.

[artlady]

It sounds as if she just wants you hanging around if and when she decides she wants to be with you.On her terms only.

Maybe when she split with you she wasn't so sure that she was ready to lose you completely so she is now changing the rules of the relationship.To suit her needs.

Are you willing to be a puppet for this girl? She sounds as if she is afraid to be without you wanting her but she doesn't care about you enough to want to commit.

Maybe she is just keeping you hanging until something else comes along.

The love you speak of sounds very one sided.I would rethink how much she respects you and cares for you since her actions indicate she cares very little.

If you want a relationship only when she snaps her fingers and says *today I want to be with you*,then continue on but that doesn't sound like much fun.

[talaniman]

It takes two people working together for a relationship to work. She has stated her expectations, now you state yours. Where does it say you do this all her way, because she wants it. If she can't be more flexible than that, your better of leaving her alone, so talk to her and end the confusion.

Maybe that's why I was dumped so many times, I just couldn't take orders.

[Romefalls19]

Sounds like she wants you on her accord, not on proper relationship grounds. Think of it as a little kid, when you first get that new toy you are always playing with it, then after awhile you don't want it anymore until someone else tries to play with it, then it's your favorite toy again.