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AskMe11 · Mar 10, 2009, 09:50 AM

Hi everyone.
I'm in my first year of university and really confused about a certain guy, which is in some of my classes. Since I started uni in October 08 me or my friends have not spoken to this guy and girl that he hangs around with. (They are not together) but I have a huge crush on him. Things are now becoming awkward as we see each other most days but for some reason never talk or just say hi, although every time I walk pass him he stares at me or when we sit near each other I feel like he wants to make conversation but doesn't say anything and as I've spoken 2 all d people in d class at some point 4 some reason I feel shy just randomly talking to him or saying anything. My friends tell me that they think he fancies me as he keeps on looking but I'm not sure as he doesn't approach me or make some kind of conversation. Also today he tried to speak 2 my friend while they were sitting at the same table and she said that she thinks he's trying 2 get closer to me but I don't know if he is shy or just doesn't feel the same way. I no this all sounds so childish but I'm shy to talk to him because I'm paranoid that he knows I like him and den I will end up looking desperate, but I'm not. Any advice plzzz?.

Edited for bad grammer, text/chat or whatever.

Justwantfair · Mar 10, 2009, 09:54 AM

It is not desperate to talk to other people. Say hello, if he is shy it will help him warm up.

Please use correct grammar, text speak is not allowed, that makes your question easier for us to read.

mudweiser · Mar 10, 2009, 09:54 AM

The best thing you can do is ask the person out to a group date so there's not much pressure on the both of you if you were alone. Get a couple friends and go bowling, a small party? camping [however the weather is where you are].

Try having conversations with him, and get to know him a bit more, ask him out to a drink or coffee?

I'm not sure if you have a class with him or not [can't remember reading that], but if you do I'm sure you have tests or essays to write of some sort: when time comes ask him if he'd like to study with you or a group study.

Good luck to you, and be yourself.

MRS.S

kctiger · Mar 10, 2009, 09:55 AM

You are in college now!! Time to grow up, and go after something you like. Take a chance and just spark up a conversation with him. You obviously like his looks, which is understandable, but you need to at least talk to the guy... having a conversation is an easy way to tell if the two of you would even be slightly compatible. Quit being scared and make it happen!! Good luck...

AskMe11 · Mar 10, 2009, 10:04 AM

Thanks guys.. but the way I see it is that if he fancied me in any sort of way he would try to make conversation or say hi or I don't know, I'm confused. The reason why I don't want to go up to him and be the first to make some kind of covnersation or even ask something is not to look desperate. I do talk to other people so I'm not saying talking to people is desperate but I think he knows I fancy him, because of my behaviour around him.. it's pretty obvious even though I try not to be shy. Argh this is so fustrating I wish I didn't fancy him as I see him often but I can't help how I feel.

talaniman · Mar 10, 2009, 10:04 AM

Try starting with hello, and seeing if he says it back. Uni is no place to be shy, or bad at spelling.

You lose points for both!

AskMe11 · Mar 10, 2009, 10:08 AM

Haha :)...

AskMe11 · Mar 10, 2009, 10:56 AM

Does anyone think he fancies me from what I'v mentioned above or is it all in my head?

kctiger · Mar 10, 2009, 10:57 AM

My mind reading ability has diminished over the years. NO ONE on here can give you a good answer. Just talk to him

talaniman · Mar 10, 2009, 11:54 AM

Should you be telling us as we don't know anything about him.

Find out and let us know. Then we can talk!

liz28 · Mar 10, 2009, 12:08 PM

The both of you seem shy and there is nothing wrong with a female approaching a guy nowaday. Most females want the guy to do all the work but if you sit around and wait you might blow your chances. So be aggressive and go up and talk to him because there is no harm in talking to someone. You've to overcome this fear about going after what you want. This is a dog eat dog world so if you want something go and get it otherwise as I stated already your going miss out on a lot.