[Constant]

Hey guys, so about 2.5 weeks ago my girlfriend decided we needed to take a break. We are deeply in love but she decided she needed some time to figure herself out, show herself she can stand on her own two feet. We had an almost perfect relationship but I guess little things added up to where she wanted to have a little more breathing room. She told me this would not be forever. We talk on the phone still, we even kind of chat about doing stuff together in the near future. She asks me to come to some events that she has at college and I mine. She tells me she loves me every time, but she just needs to be alone right now. Even her sister said it wasn't about another guy, just about her finding herself-- being with her new girl friends she finally has. She called me last night, and I tried to act excited and caring about what her day was like, how was she doing, make jokes etc. I always add a way I miss her and care about her. She said she had a lot of work to do but just wanted to call, wish she could talk more, wish we were snuggling, and then said she loved me. I am afraid of us not getting back together even though I think this is true love, and that we will. I have a strong conscious that plays tricks on me and makes me over-evaluate my emotions. I love her with all my heart, and I think about her constantly all day, even though I try not to iniate conversations. One phone call she even mentioned us taking up tennis over the summer. I have lots of hope for us, because our love doesn't deserve to end like this. That being said, my day to day functioning doesn't reflect what I believe. I am scared, nervous, and still madly in love. I know she will come back, but how do I make my mind and soul wait without pain. I can't cut off all connection with her, that will drive her away... Any advice on what to say, when to say it, what to do, how to stay focused on my school and not on what isn't happening?

I have figured out the hard part. We are in love and meant to be. But what will make it easier for that day to come?

[talaniman]

Start by reading the stickies at the beginning of this forum. There is a link in my signature, in case you need help.

You are far from the only one to go through this.

[Romefalls19]

Tal beat me to it, but the stickies are a great help to handle situations like these.