[keedh]

:( I always thought we were the perfect match until the day I told my partner that I was pregnant with our first child, he had always said he wanted us to have children but once it happened something inside him changed, he didn't want to have the baby and made it very obvious to everyone, after a lot of torment from him I decided to keep my baby and gave him the choice to leave if he wanted with the promise that I wouldn't make him pay maitainance if he didn't want to be a part of our lives. But for some reason he decided to stay, ever since that day he has been distant from me, he never kisses me, hugs me, touches me, he now sleeps on the other side of the bed from me, we never speak and he never shows that he loves me, as you would probably guess we have no sex life either. Over the past 2 years this has got worse, to the point that I am never happy anymore and we fight. Va :cry: lentines day came and I didn't even get a card, things since then have been terrible as I can't figure out what is wrong with me and why he hates me, when we fight he tells me its my fault cause I'm never happy anymore, I try my best to do everything to make him happy and its never good enough. Yesterday we had a really big fight and he threatens me that if we break up I cannot move home to Sydney ( we live in queensland) as I can't go anywhere when there is a joint custordy case. Yet tells me he can't even look at me anymore. I am so miserable, I don't know what to do and need advice, if we break up then I couldn't stay here as I have no one here for support. Please help.

[cakesbyellen]

You are in an abusive situation and it will only get worse. You need to start looking into getting a lawyer who will give you the facts of what you can and cannot do. You also need to start calling family and social organizations to see what kind of help there is out there for you. You need to take back your life and it will not be easy but the relief you will find once you are free is both scary and exciting. My youngest daughter was in the same boat and it has taken her almost 6 months but the overall change in her is wonderful to see. I will pray for you and others in your situation to have the strength to overcome these difficult times.

[keedh]

Thank you for your advice cakesbyellen, inside I know this is what I have to do but what if I leave and it was all my fault? And then we can never fix it cause I've left. Why would someone go from adoring me to not wanting to come near me? I really don't understand, you will be happy to know I am going to try see my doctor to get a referral to talk to someone to help me do this, just very scared of what happens now, once again, thank you for your reply. It makes me feel like maybe its not all my fault.

[talaniman]

How can you take blame for his bad behavior? Don't!! Do get rid of him, so you can be happy, and healthy raising your child through love. Don't forget the child support.

[keedh]

I'm going to be all alone if I leave with a 7 month old baby and another one on the way, do you think that maybe things will ever change, or does this happen to a lot of relatonships?

[kpangor]

keedh start planning the future of your kids ,forget about the guy ,get yourself some help and stop saying''oh things will change , etc..