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ConfusedTeen2nd · Feb 18, 2009, 02:25 PM

friend4u178 thank you for posting this really helped me

Rola7 · Feb 18, 2009, 03:17 PM

Lol love this topic! True, everything's true!

hee · Feb 19, 2009, 04:29 AM

You true nicee nice post lot of thing happened wit me too

But believe me cnt get over its past 1 year still cnt
He's going out wit another girl in front of me and I have to face him everyday bcaz he's in my class...

No option but was about to take revenge but still in thinking process... will sooon decide
Bcaz if sam 1 did bad do double bad with him...

friend4u178 · Feb 19, 2009, 02:58 PM

Originally Posted by hee

ya true nicee nice post lot of thing happened wit me too

but belive me cnt get over its past 1 year stil cnt
hes goin out wit another girl in front of me and i hav to face him everyday bcaz hes in my class....

no option but was abt to take revenge but still in thinking process.....will sooon decide
bcaz if sam 1 did bad do double bad with him....

I'm sorry for your pain but taking revenge really doesn't achieve anything except losing your dignity with no return.

ceddie13 · Feb 27, 2009, 10:13 PM

Words can't describe what I just read, no joke it made me laugh because I remebered all the calling and txting and such and how I was. I mean its been 2 weeks of no contact after failing my first try at it. But A LOT has happened to me to change my outlook and become better, reading this made me re realize that break ups are hard and rough but the fact you said this happened for a reason and if you miss the lesson then you miss it completely I have finally saw what I needed to see and that was to grow up I mean seriously if we all look back on it we got so used to that other that when there gone we forgot to be who we were before.

white-rose · Feb 28, 2009, 10:29 PM

Wow you should write a book honestly, that was completely compelling. Your words leave a lasting impression. You have a very deep understanding of the dynamics of relationships. Good job, amazing.

Flavor_2000 · Mar 5, 2009, 10:35 PM

I have so done most if not all (except stalk). I use to think I was crazy every time I cried out of the blue!!

i_am_the_lady · Mar 19, 2009, 05:47 AM

I am not hurting anymore. But I am still struggling. Some hours I feel good and ready to face the world, but at times, I just want to run back to his arms. I will take it a day at a time. A battle at a time. And I will be my own self again.. :)

kez130 · Mar 20, 2009, 02:04 PM

This was amazing, it made so much sense and as much as it hurts it's all very true, this has helped a lot, thank you so much

I wish · Mar 23, 2009, 02:29 PM

Wow... friend4u178

I think everyone should read this before even posting their question.

farmtowngirl · Mar 26, 2009, 09:15 PM

I. Love. You.

friend4u178 · Mar 26, 2009, 09:17 PM

Originally Posted by farmtowngirl

I. Love. You.

::blushes::

jennaaa · Mar 30, 2009, 11:41 PM

Omg that is exactly how I feel right now ughhh :/

shylaluv · Mar 31, 2009, 01:06 AM

Bravo brova

Emily94 · Apr 3, 2009, 03:48 PM

Well I kind of loved this, it gave me a new.. prospective on it all!

finchance · Apr 3, 2009, 06:20 PM

I like the post as well but I still think it does not harm to try. When people had a long term relation that really worked, maybe there still is something.
I had some people against me in other posting that are telling that it's useless etc...

The same among friends happes too, you can have a problem and either you never talk to them anymore or you talk about it.
Some of these friendships work out well.

Same for ex's. I don't like to hear this stuff that all is over and just forget about some one you have spent 10% of your life with!

There are dosens of programs on TV , people are searching for some one they broke up with 30-40 years ago and they have regret their choice for all these years.

The posting is a great help for getting through the break up but trying to fix something is nice as well. I'm proud that I tried, it didn't work out for me.

garry2361323 · Apr 4, 2009, 01:28 PM

I was very depressed and sad today... but after reading this post m ACTUALLY smiling :)... evry word you wrote is so true, it's really unbelievable... thanx a lot for such a nice suggestion :)

tony71 · Apr 6, 2009, 12:50 PM

I just ran into this site and I read your post and it is helpful but still a little down.

I was in a relationship for 5 years, we were thinking of marrige but the issue she had was she wanted to marry a guy that was in the same religion. At first 2 years ago, I agreed to convert but soon I realized if I converted then it might set up other things she may ask of me to change, so I told her I can't do it and she was very mad.

She ended it but after one day I called her, and we were back together but I told her I can not convert, but we still carried on the relationship.

Well last week we had an argument over the phone and she wanted to break up, she said we can not carry on since she can't marry me since I won't convert and she has talked to her sister and the sister agreed too. Funny thing is the sister is in a marriage where she and the husband do not get along and she almost got a divorce and here she is advising her sister. I was mad but at the end I told her if that is what you want then fine and we hung up. I did text her back 30 minutes later and wished her the best in her life and that I hoped she found the guy she is looking for that is from the same religion and she would be happy. She texted me back and did the same.

She is going to NYU in NYC and I'm in DC, it seems when she is there I miss her but when she came to see me after couple of days in my mind I wanted her to go. So I have also been thinking , what if we got married, would it have actually worked out? I did also have doubts at the end about marrying her but I did love her.

I noticed on Facebook she posted this song Saturday night, it is by Depeche Mode called Suffer Well. I knew when she was depressed she would listen to Depeche Mode, so it was obvious she was feeling depressed. The funny thing is I also got her into the band.

Anyway, this time I have done the no contact but it is sooooooooo hard. During the days in the morning when I wake up it is so depressing and then specially at nights. One thing for sure one of my friend's who has been in and out of long term relationships, told me it will get better. In fact we are all going to vegas end of the month. But I hope I can move on without her, 50% of me wants her back and the other 50% is confused and is not sure if I want her back.:confused::confused:

hope20 · Apr 12, 2009, 11:23 PM

It sounds good but really difficult to apply it... one can't really avoid the person he/she loves...

confusicus · Apr 14, 2009, 04:27 PM

I am feeling your message right now. AMEN! Been there as the dumper and dumpee all rolled into one in a short space of time and finally found laughter with good friends. I'll shall now start working on finding my old self again! Thank you, Thank you,Thank you!