[ineedsomeadvice]

When I met my boyfriends family they were really nice people. My boyfriend and I met over the internet and his sister was questioning me on how we met cause there were a lot of gaps in his story. After a few months of bonding with her, I felt comfortable enough to tell her the truth on how we met in confidence. Now that D and I are married, my mil and sil hate my guts cause I see trough their fake personalities and bs-ing ways. Now my sil is trying to embarrass me by telling people how my husband and I really met. Let me say this: I wouldn't say I'm proud of the way we met, but it happened that way and I am happy as I am married to such wonderful guy, it hurts me that she is going around making something so beautiful and special look so trashy and sleezy.

I really need some advice on how I could deal with this graciously and tell her off in a very nice way when she does this again in front of someone, trying to embarrass me.

[BIGBOPPER]

Turn the tables on her! Don't be embarrassed. I met my girlfriend of six years that way, and in fact, I kind of make it a "cool story" when we meet someone and discuss that topic. Why be embarrassed? Before the internet, there were pen pals or relationships started in college, or over the phone...
You don't have to meet in a bar to get hooked up. Take away her thunder, and she will have to eat crow. (Oh God, I think I just channeled Dear Abby there,) At any rate, turn the tables on her, empower yourself with the facts and she has nothing to get you with. Take care!

[candyfloss7]

O agree with Bigbopper , I have just married the love of my life whom I met on the internet 3 years ago, we were both widowed, I have moved country to live with him , I am not finding the relations with his daughters too good even though they are grown adults one of them being a mother herself !but we have a strong enough love to get through any negative situations,
You don't have a thing to feel embarressed about ,times have changed and believe me there are so many internet romances /marriagesgoing on now and most of them are stronger than marraiges where the couples have met conventially face to face or whatever !
A lot of the times its jealousy from the family for some reason , try to concentrate on the love of your life and don't let anything interfere , Good luck.

[ineedsomeadvice]

Thank you for all your helpful answers. The problem however is that because his mother is against internet dating etc. A different version of how we met was formed and that is why his sister is trying to embarrass me. Everyone thinks we met another way, but she is going around telling people that she will tell them how we REALLY met.

[dontknownuthin]

Have a response in mind for each time you see them, "Yes, Mrs. Smith, I bet you didn't know that Dave was on-line looking for a woman like me, did you! I'm so lucky, too...what a wonderful man!". See, she wants it to be all about you being on line, but she's overlooking that her son was on there, too! Or, to his sister, "Yes, Mary, you're right...we did meet on line. Now, you and Bob met at a bar, right?" (if they did... few of us meet in church!)

Or you can say, "oh, my goodness...we've been married for 5 years now, can we move past the story of how we met now? Perhaps we can discuss your colonoscopy?"

My sister in law used to try to embarrass me all the time and it worked for years. Then I realized that I was tolerating it and I put a stop to it by outwiting her. When she pointed out that I wore fake nails and died my hair (to a house full of my guests) I quipped back, "careful now or I'll have to tell them about our expedition to buy water bras!" When she told some mutual relatives how much better I looked at my wedding, "before she gained all the weight", I replied, "yeah, neither one of us would be able to get even one leg in our dresses from my wedding, would we...we should really excercise together!" In other words, it was such that she came to know quickly that whatever secret of mine was told, one of hers would immediately follow and I wouldn't be embarrassed no matter what she said about me. She announced my miscarriages, job losses, careless car accident, and irritations with my husband. Announcing my miscarriage, my response was, "we could take lessons from you...boy you are really fertile!" About my car accident, "fortunately it was minor. I'm so glad I didn't have to go through all you did when you knocked over that phone pole!" Irritations with my husband? "Well, the good news is... I married the right sibling. You and I would have killed each other by now, wouldn't we? Boy, the things you say sometimes!" Always said with a smile, she didn't know what hit her and learned to shut the $%^& up!

[candyfloss7]

Have a response in mind for each time you see them, "Yes, Mrs. Smith, I bet you didn't know that Dave was on-line looking for a woman like me, did you! I'm so lucky, too...what a wonderful man!". See, she wants it to be all about you being on line, but she's overlooking that her son was on there, too! Or, to his sister, "Yes, Mary, you're right...we did meet on line. Now, you and Bob met at a bar, right?" (if they did...few of us meet in church!)

Or you can say, "oh, my goodness...we've been married for 5 years now, can we move past the story of how we met now? Perhaps we can discuss your colonoscopy?"

My sister in law used to try to embarass me all the time and it worked for years. Then I realized that I was tolerating it and I put a stop to it by outwiting her. When she pointed out that I wore fake nails and died my hair (to a house full of my guests) I quipped back, "careful now or I'll have to tell them about our expedition to buy water bras!" When she told some mutual relatives how much better I looked at my wedding, "before she gained all the weight", I replied, "yeah, neither one of us would be able to get even one leg in our dresses from my wedding, would we...we should really excercise together!" In other words, it was such that she came to know quickly that whatever secret of mine was told, one of hers would immediately follow and I wouldn't be embarassed no matter what she said about me. She announced my miscarriages, job losses, careless car accident, and irritations with my husband. Announcing my miscarriage, my response was, "we could take lessons from you...boy you are really fertile!" About my car accident, "fortunately it was minor. I'm so glad I didn't have to go through all you did when you knocked over that phone pole!" Irritations with my husband? "Well, the good news is... I married the right sibling. You and I would have killed each other by now, wouldn't we? Boy, the things you say sometimes!" Always said with a smile, she didn't know what hit her and learned to shut the $%^& up!

Great solution , well said :D

[BIGBOPPER]

Have a response in mind for each time you see them, "Yes, Mrs. Smith, I bet you didn't know that Dave was on-line looking for a woman like me, did you! I'm so lucky, too...what a wonderful man!". See, she wants it to be all about you being on line, but she's overlooking that her son was on there, too! Or, to his sister, "Yes, Mary, you're right...we did meet on line. Now, you and Bob met at a bar, right?" (if they did...few of us meet in church!)

You are sooo right. I would have added in the OP's case "Yep I got him on E-Bay, and with free shipping too! Can you beat that?" Humor almost always defuses the situation.