Check out some similar questions!

windstoper · Feb 23, 2009, 03:31 PM

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 16 months and spent every day together.The other night she made me a meal and I wasn't hungry.She went into a mood and told me she needs a few days too herself on her own each week.So I stormed out and said it was over between did I over react?Or does she want to break up with?

hatorade · Feb 23, 2009, 03:40 PM

You over reacted. Tell her your sorry.

windstoper · Feb 23, 2009, 03:45 PM

Originally Posted by hatorade

You over reacted. tell her your sorry.

Do you think so?She said she loves me but needs some time on her own too get a bath and clean up the house.Starting to think I have been a little bit childish now.

liz28 · Feb 23, 2009, 04:00 PM

Yes, a relationship isn't defind why how many times you see each other each week. You don't need to see one another each day and it doesn't means that she wants the relationship to be over by what she said. She just need space and you should respect that and also engage in activties with your friend and have a life outside of your relationship.

If things would have continue than she would,ve defintely left and this drowns a relationship fast. You need to talk with your girlfriend and listen instead of running away and pouted. Communication is a main key for a long lasting relationship.

windstoper · Feb 23, 2009, 04:06 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

Yes, a relationship isn't defind why how many times you see each other each week. You don't need to see one another each day and it doesn't means that she wants the relationship to be over by what she said. She just need space and you should respect that and also engage in activties with your friend and have a life outside of your relationship.

If things would have continue than she would,ve defintely left and this drowns a relationship fast. You need to talk with your girlfriend and listen instead of runing away and pouted. Communication is a main key for a long lasting relationship.

She did say in the conversation that I should go the gym or do something on the days we are not together.She is 33 and I am 23 so I think she is a lot more experienced than me in this.But I have taken this as a nice way of telling me she doesn't like me anymore.Alot of people today have told me that she needs space if you are together 7 days a week.

liz28 · Feb 23, 2009, 04:20 PM

Wwll maybe your're inexperience but whenever your with someone everyday you atart to get sick of that person and feel like your being suffocated that why you need balance. You have do things separately and not always together. Even if you go hang out with friend or family or gym even a movie, do it you don't need to with her.

chick magnet · Feb 23, 2009, 04:22 PM

I think you might have over reacted. She mightbe breaking up with you, or something is wrong. You should apolagize and ask her straight out " is something going on?"

windstoper · Feb 23, 2009, 04:24 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

Wwll maybe your're inexperience but whenever your with someone everyday you atart to get sick of that person and feel like your being suffocated that why you need balance. You have do things seperately and not always together. Even if you go hang out with friend or family or gym even a movie, do it you don't need to with her.

You are right she was starting too get on my nerves a bit too we spend too much time together.

windstoper · Feb 23, 2009, 04:26 PM

Originally Posted by chick magnet

I think you might have over reacted. She mightbe breaking up with you, or something is wrong. You should apolagize and ask her straight out " is something going on?"

Phoned her up tonight and said I would come round too her house on Thursday. And she said "well thats up too you".Dont know what too think about that comment now whether I should bother or not?

liz28 · Feb 23, 2009, 04:39 PM

No, you call and talk to her because she isn't breaking up with you so get that thought out of your head. Stop thinking negative and be more postitive and relize in a relationship you need trust, communcation, and it's full of compromise. Also, things aren't going always be peaches and cream sometimes your going be like oil and water but no matter what goes on you worked through them together as a team.

So in this case you was wrong and need to man up about your overacting and express to her what you thought she meant by it but now you see what she meant by it.

windstoper · Feb 23, 2009, 04:41 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

No, you call and talk to her because she isn't breaking up with you so get that thought out of your head. Stop thinking negative and be more postitive and relize in a relationship you need trust, communcation, and it's full of compromise. Also, things aren't going always be peaches and cream sometimes your going be like oil and water but no matter what goes on you worked through them together as a team.

So in this case you was wrong and need to man up about your overacting and express to her what you thought she meant by it but now you see what she meant by it.

She did say that also that things are not going too be great all the time.Getting some good advice from her it has cheered me up a lot very much appreciated.

talaniman · Feb 24, 2009, 07:47 AM

You have a lot to learn, not only about females, and relationships, but about yourself also, like how to cope with your own feelings, and exercising some self control.

windstoper · Feb 24, 2009, 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

You have a lot to learn, not only about females, and relationships, but about yourself also, like how to cope with your own feelings, and exercising some self control.

You are 100 percent right I am already on a course to deal with my anger.

windstoper · Feb 24, 2009, 08:02 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

You have a lot to learn, not only about females, and relationships, but about yourself also, like how to cope with your own feelings, and exercising some self control.

Still not sure whether to ring her or not should I wait for her to contact me?

kctiger · Feb 24, 2009, 08:04 AM

Self Control is the key words in here... so your answer to that question: NO, do not contact her

windstoper · Feb 24, 2009, 08:06 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Self Control is the key words in here...so your answer to that question: NO, do not contact her

Just don't want her too think I am being childish not ringing?

kctiger · Feb 24, 2009, 08:08 AM

It isn't about what she thinks... it is about learning to have control, and responsibility for YOUR actions! VERY RARELY do "thriving off of emotions" do any good.

windstoper · Feb 24, 2009, 08:12 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

It isn't about what she thinks...it is about learning to have control, and responsibility for YOUR actions! VERY RARELY do "thriving off of emotions" do any good.

But she hasn't said she wants a break she just said a couple of days a week so she can get a bath etc.And she said the nights we are not togheter could I text her before I get into bed.so I am not sure what too think or read into this?

kctiger · Feb 24, 2009, 08:13 AM

Fine... wait on the porch until she lets you in...

windstoper · Feb 24, 2009, 08:15 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Fine...wait on the porch until she lets you in...

So do you think it is over and I shoud not bother calling her again?Plus I have her house keys so I could let myself in.