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    Feb 23, 2009, 12:26 PM
    Do I have the right to be jealous and angry about this?
    OK so my gidlfriends ex I guess keeps calling her and etc and I always see her texting and I get worried she's talking to him. On Facebook he sent me a pm saying she stilltalks to him and says she's friends with him and claims she's told me. He is not a very trustworthy person at all. But I'm also having a hard time to believe her. I get jealous over stupid stuff but I also told her that I hate it when she talks to him. She admitted she talked to him before when I asked. But I know he is just trying to get her back. She tells me she won't and hates him. I don't know if I believe it or not and I'm afraid of losing her. Do I have a right to be jealous and mad?
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    Feb 23, 2009, 12:28 PM

    How long have you been together?

    How long have they been apart?

    How long were they together?
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    Feb 23, 2009, 12:32 PM

    You can worry all you want but sadly it will get you nowhere. Either learn to live with this, or leave.
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    Feb 23, 2009, 12:59 PM

    He's trying to get under your skin and you're letting him. He may be trying to get her back and is creating conflict and distrust in your relationship - hoping that you'll crack and she'll be back on the market.

    You're going to have to simply ignore the guy and trust your girlfriend, or you're going to have to let her go.

    Trust her when she says that she's done with him, or believe him when he says she is talking to him behind your back.
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    Feb 23, 2009, 01:55 PM

    Your girlfriend might like the attention she is getting from this guy and might even like the fact that it is making you jealous.

    If you already talked her about this situation and she isn't ignoring your feelings than there is nothing for you to do so that why your left feelings the way you do.

    That parts that bothers me the most about your girlfriend is when she saids she hates him but continue to talk, text him.

    However the pronblem isn't with her ex it lies with your girlfriend.
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    Feb 23, 2009, 10:33 PM
    Yea but I trust her enough that she won't cheat on me but it just gets me mad just the thought of her texting/talking to him.
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    Feb 23, 2009, 10:36 PM

    I have ex's that I am still in contact with, but they were never my most recent ex... I guess it depends on the situation.

    You are in a relationship, if it bothers you then talk to your partner about how it makes you feel, in a non threatening, compassionate way. If she loves you, she will modify the behavior or let you know enough so that you feel more comfortable with the situation.
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    Feb 23, 2009, 11:01 PM

    She's with you, and not him. That's all that matters...
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    Feb 24, 2009, 07:34 AM
    I know he is just trying to get her back. She tells me she won't and hates him.
    That's a lie, as have you ever heard someone who texts a person that they hate? She is putting you off her trail, but I smell a RAT!

    Talaniman Rule- never mess with someone who is still involved with the ex!
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