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    demondayz Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 15, 2009, 12:21 PM
    Does she want to be more than just friends?
    Basically there's a girl we haven't known each other long probably 2 months. We have hit of with a great relationship so quickly and on our 1st date which was about a month ago she went to kiss me but I never sealed the deal because I knew she was maybe a bit confused over her ex as they split up about 3 months before hand and I sensed she wasn't over him totally.

    Now the more I've know her I've become very fond of her and told her this but she got pretty defensive and was like "i want us to be best mates at the moment nothing else, i dont want anything other than that with anyone right now".
    Now I'm confused as we went out last week and I stayed over hers and we were holding hands and then it turned more touchy feely ;) and we kissed finally, so I don't know does she want a relationship maybe and just not sure or maybe she wants something casual?

    What do you think I should do? Does she like me or is it maybe more of a lust thing I don't know :confused:
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    Feb 15, 2009, 02:08 PM

    Ask her about it. Tell her what you want. Don't push her, but you have to firmly tell her about how you feel.
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    Feb 15, 2009, 03:21 PM

    She has told you how she feels, even though the lust has crept into this equation, so don't get carried away, and see more than what it is at this early stage.

    Your just dating, and it should stay that way. Lust or no lust!

    Personally, you both should be dating others as well, until such a time you agree to be exclusively seeing each other.

    I think your both a bit caught up in intense feelings for each other and may be moving to fast to make reasonable adjustments, or decisions at this time.

    *Talaniman Rule- Never get involved with someone who is still thinking of the ex

    *Talaniman Rule- To much, to fast, crash and burn.

    *Talaniman Rule- Never be a rebound for someone fresh out of a break up.

    Just some food for thought, while you deal with the lust.
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    Feb 15, 2009, 03:38 PM

    Cheers talaniman, I have suggested maybe dating others aswel so I think that's a good idea.
    I'm going to step back a bit and slow this be Down I think, maybe have a more of a friendship for now give it sum time so she knows what she looking for :)

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