[thinker1610]

So here goes.

I am 25 and was going out with my girlfriend for around 4 and a half years. We did break up for 3 months a couple of years ago but I done everything to win her back and was so happy when we got back together. About 3 month ago my girlfriend said unless I propose to her it is over which upset me and I wasn't ready for this so we broke up. She then realised she made a mistake and we tried to work things out and take it slowly to see how we feel. Around 3 weeks ago I went out with friends and she got the hump and split up with me and said that we both need to move on which hit me quite hard!! Within days I was ringing her begging for another chance and texting her but she said there was no way she was going to change her mind, then she just started ignoring my calls so then I done the hardest thing and deleted her number and have not contacted her now for a few weeks. I miss her loads but I had to move on and I couldn't ring her anymore!! Last night to my surprise she phoned me but she was drunk on her way home from a night out. I was happy thinking she might want to give it another go but instead when I told her I was out with friends she told me she hated me and that I have wasted 4 and a half years of her life, she called me all sorts of names and said she isn't got no friends because she give them up for me etc etc!! She made me feel really bad!! She won't answer her phone today. I do feel we isn't right together but I love her and find it hard not being with her and the thought of her going with someone else kills me! I would appreciate any advice and what the best thing to do is because I'm very confused and don't know what top do!

[MiSSsy111222]

It sounds like your relationship has had many ups and downs. It sounds like she has a grudge against you. Don't take this personal, anger is one of the emotions you feel after a break up.

As for her leaving her friends, that is her own fault. Trust me I know I've done it myself. There is no one to blame but ourself.

My bet is to leave her alone, easier said than done I know.

[thinker1610]

I will try to leave her alone... I have tried evrything so I have to try to move on! Really upset about it though. The grudge she as is that I haven't give her much commitment but she as pressured me from day one which makes me backoff plus money and uni has held me back a bit but she takes it personal! Rather than talk and sort things out she just breaks up with me!! I can't handle it!

Maybe in time after she as got over the anger stage she might want to talk but until then I need to give her space because all I'll do is drive her away even more! Is that best do you think? I really hope she gives me another chance.

[UnluckyDucky]

Your best course of action is to stop all contact immediately! You've already taken the first step to delete her number, but you must learn to ignore all contact from her too.

She's already made her intent quite clear, you stated that "she said there was no way she was going to change her mind". Respect her decision and accept it as fact. You even said yourself that you don't feel that you and her are right together.

Stop thinking that she'll give you another chance, you'll just give yourself even more false hope and delay the healing of your heart you so desperately need. Start No Contact today if you have not already.

I know this is going to be tough but you're not alone...

[MiSSsy111222]

Don't hope. Really. You have to think that this could actully be the

Space is good, it will give you both time to think things through.

Don't pressure her, if u are going to contact her just let her no that you are there for her. Don't push things, you are right it will only push her away

[thinker1610]

Thank you for your answers... I am even more confused now as she text me Sunday about meeting up face to face, which at first I was really happy about and agreed to meet her Wednesday. Now I am thinking if it is the best thing to do and should I wait to I am stronger on my own as at the moment I am not thinking straight and I don't want to hurt her! Sometimes I wonder whether its 'want what you can't have' then if it does happen I'm not sure and think about what the best thing to do is! I don't want to hurt her and myself anymore and think it might be best to have some time on my own?! 4 n half years together is a long time and I do feel if I get back with her will I be happy as I wasn't happy with her for ages towards the end!! People do say we isn't right for each other! I'm really confused. Sorry but what do you think?