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DSM521 · Feb 11, 2009, 11:53 AM

Okay, I am really confused. :confused:I need help understanding how many types of female orgasms there are.

I don't really know how to put it but when me and my wife make love she likes me to give her oral sex tell she has a clitoral orgasm. Then she likes penetration right afterwords. No problem with me, I love that. Then while we are having sex she seems to again, sometimes she even gushes. She says it is not an internal orgasm. The best way she can describe it is like it is a finishing thing.

I don't really understand what she means. She is not very good at explaining it to me, and seems to get embarrassed or frustrated. She knows I am not mad at her, or that it really matters to me, I am just trying to understand what she is feeling. She says she has only had an internal orgasm one time, and that is when we were having oral sex and my fingers were in her.

Can anyone explain it more clear for me. This is not something that is a problem with me and my wife, she is happy in bed and I am as well. Just looking for a clear explanation.

Choux · Feb 11, 2009, 01:12 PM

One, it can vary greatly in intensity... that's my opinion. :)

DSM521 · Feb 11, 2009, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by Choux

One, it can vary greatly in intensity...that's my opinion. :)

Is there a difference in clitoral and internal. She said she has had both. Internal only once. I understand they would feel the same.

I guess my question is the clitoris is not inside the vagina so to speak. So would it not be different.

Sorry just trying to understand.

chrissymarie · Feb 11, 2009, 01:32 PM

I've discovered 3 different kinds of orgasms:

One that made me "gush" that wasn't very long but felt super intense.

A really long G-spot orgasm that felt amazing but doesn't happen often.

And a clitoral orgasm that lasts for about 30 seconds and tickles a little bit.

I truly believe women have many different kinds of orgasms with a variation of intensities. They are really hard to explain but they all feel good. If your making any kind of orgasm happen at all you should be proud of that... not many men can do that.

Synnen · Feb 11, 2009, 01:47 PM

DSM--

I'll attempt to describe my orgasms when you figure out a way to describe how a blowjob feels different than intercourse, and how either of them are different from masturbating with your hand, in such a manner that I, having no penis, can understand completely what you are talking about.

Sorry--I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I don't blame your wife for getting upset with you for trying to get her to describe them to you--seriously. It's like trying to describe how a cloud "tastes" or how the color green "smells". I think you COULD attempt to describe either of those, but if you were trying to describe it to someone who has never experienced it the same way you have, it's not going to make any sense.

DSM521 · Feb 11, 2009, 02:05 PM

Originally Posted by Synnen

DSM--

I'll attempt to describe my orgasms when you figure out a way to describe how a blowjob feels different than intercourse, and how either of them are different from masturbating with your hand, in such a manner that I, having no penis, can understand completely what you are talking about.

Sorry--I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I don't blame your wife for getting upset with you for trying to get her to describe them to you--seriously. It's like trying to describe how a cloud "tastes" or how the color green "smells". I think you COULD attempt to describe either of those, but if you were trying to describe it to someone who has never experienced it the same way you have, it's not going to make any sense.

I understand what you are saying. I am not asking her to be a jerk, or wanting her to explain something she cant. I just want to learn, and be a good lover for my wife.

I am not trying to be selfish or self centered. I guess it would be the same as a woman wondering to know what she does that her lover likes or how it makes him feel. Like I said I understand they feel the same. That's great.

I did not mean to be annoying or ask a stupid question. I just think the more I understand the better I will at fulfilling her needs. Its not about me, just trying to learn a little for my wife's sake. I love her and want to make her happy.

I just thought that some woman might be able to shed some light on the subject. That's all.:)

Synnen · Feb 11, 2009, 02:28 PM

Then just LISTEN to her, and ask her for suggestions to improve.

Trying to figure out how her orgasms are different from each other will be like you trying to say how YOUR orgasms are different from each other--and that just doesn't work.

Like I said, I wasn't trying to be mean or sarcastic--I just think what you're trying to get her to tell you in this case is impossible to describe.

slapshot_oi · Feb 11, 2009, 02:48 PM

Originally Posted by Synnen

DSM--

I'll attempt to describe my orgasms when you figure out a way to describe how a blowjob feels different than intercourse, and how either of them are different from masturbating with your hand, in such a manner that I, having no penis, can understand completely what you are talking about.

Simple
BJ: No work involved
Sex: Power
Masturbation: a chore

Synnen · Feb 11, 2009, 03:01 PM

Yes... but how does it FEEL different?

SAB123 · Feb 11, 2009, 03:05 PM

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DSM521 · Feb 11, 2009, 03:55 PM

Originally Posted by Synnen

Yes...but how does it FEEL different?

I don't think you understand what I was asking. That is my fault its just hard to explain. I am not asking how orgasm feel. They feel the same I understand that.

My question is, she says that when we are done with the oral and we go to intercourse and she gushes, or says I'm cuming, that she did not have another orgasm. She said it is like a "finishing thing".

That is what I don't understand, if she gushes, and moans like she is having an orgasm, but says it is not an orgasm then what is it. I don't understand the "finishing thing".

I can except that there may not be an explanation, or a way to explain it. I just thought a woman may have experienced the same feeling, and could put it in different words.

slapshot_oi · Feb 12, 2009, 08:36 AM

We can't help you if your wife has a limited vocabulary. Tell her to read a dictionary and ask her the same question in six months.

Why do you need an explanation anyway?

Originally Posted by Synnen

Yes...but how does it FEEL different?

It's just the same feelings as it is with women.

artlady · Feb 12, 2009, 08:45 AM

Types of Female Orgasm Research shows that women can have at least three types of orgasm: clitoral, vaginal, or blended. Most women attain orgasm by having their clitoris stimulated (a clitoral orgasm), while others may reach an intense, deep orgasm involving their uterus and reproductive system (a vaginal orgasm), especially during G-spot stimulation. Still other women may experience a blended orgasm, a combination of the two, from having both their clitoris and vagina stimulated at the same time. The vulval and uterine contractions that occur often result in this being experienced as the most powerful of the three types. In some women, female ejaculation (the release of a prostatic fluid-like substance) may accompany vaginal or combined orgasm(s).

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DSM521 · Feb 12, 2009, 09:18 AM

Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

We can't help ya if your wife has a limited vocabulary. Tell her to read a dictionary and ask her the same question in six months.

Why do you need an explanation anyway?

It's just the same feelings as it is with women.

I don't need an explanation, I was just wondering about it. Just curious. I guess I was a little confused when she seems to be having one with gushing and all, but says it is not.

Trust me this is not a topic I ask my wife about all the time. We have only had a talk about it once. It just came up after we made love.

This is not something I dwell on, think about every day, or something I have to have answer to. Like I said I understand if it is something that can't be explained, that's fine. I was just looking for another woman's input that's all.

I am not asking her to explain what an orgasm feels like. That would be stupid.

I guess I should have named the post "if its not an orgasm what is it" That would be more accurate that what I named it.

simoneaugie · Feb 12, 2009, 02:25 PM

Women who are gushers may be able to address you question. It's an interesting one. If a woman never gushes, she wouldn't know how it is related to orgasms.

Gushing to me is lubrication due to excitement, but Sqirting? Is she sqirting fluid? Nice that she expressed it, finishing thing or not. Have more talks with her. Communication about sex is great, even if all the words and descriptors aren't there. Just don't make a map in your mind, that you know it all. We are always learning and changing.

slapshot_oi · Feb 12, 2009, 03:05 PM

Originally Posted by DSM521

I don't need an explanation, I was just wondering about it. just curious. I guess I was a little confused when she seems to be having one with gushing and all, but says it is not.

Trust me this is not a topic I ask my wife about all the time. We have only had a talk about it once. It just came up after we made love.

This is not something I dwell on, think about every day, or something I have to have answer to. Like I said I understand if it is something that can't be explained, thats fine. I was just looking for another womans input thats all.

I am not asking her to explain what an orgasm feels like. That would be stupid.

I guess I should have named the post "if its not an orgasm what is it" That would be more accurate that what I named it.

Your last two posts have added nothing to the topic. So I got to say, if you're so afraid of what this board or your wife thinks about your curiosity, then drop it.

I realized a long time ago I'll never be able to understand a woman's body.

DSM521 · Feb 12, 2009, 06:15 PM

Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

Your last two posts have added nothing to the topic. So I gotta say, if you're so afraid of what this board or your wife thinks about your curiosity, then drop it.

I realized a long time ago I'll never be able to understand a woman's body.

Your last two posts have not even tried to answer my question. So who's the one not adding anything to this topic. If you have no information then why answer a question?

I am not afraid of what this board or my wife thinks about my curiosity. What my wife thinks about my curiosity is none of your business anyway. Where you came up with that is beyond me.

This is "Ask Me" is it not. I am just asking a question... a question that's all. If you don't like it then no one is forcing you to post.

Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

We can't help ya if your wife has a limited vocabulary. Tell her to read a dictionary and ask her the same question in six months.

Also my wife's vocabulary is just fine. I will not insult her by telling her to read a dictionary

DSM521 · Feb 12, 2009, 06:23 PM

Originally Posted by simoneaugie

Women who are gushers may be able to address you question. It's an interesting one. If a woman never gushes, she wouldn't know how it is related to orgasms.

Gushing to me is lubrication due to excitement, but Sqirting? Is she sqirting fluid? Nice that she expressed it, finishing thing or not. Have more talks with her. Communication about sex is great, even if all the words and descriptors aren't there. Just don't make a map in your mind, that you know it all. We are always learning and changing.

Thanks for your post Simon. I feel the same way that we are always learning and changing. That is why I thought I would ask some other peoples experience on the subject. Believe me I am not even close to knowing it all. That is why I asked the question, to learn.

To answer your question... yes she does squirt fluid sometimes during intercourse. I always thought that meant an orgasm. Kind of like ejaculation for men. I guess I was wrong.

KISS · Feb 12, 2009, 06:30 PM

As a male, I have seen and felt a womens's orgasm. It depends on what knob or button you twiddle.

The fun one was the one from "aural sex". I kept saying " for me". Every time I said that, she did. After about 12 times, she said stop. This girl came in waves. Usually about 5 repititions of 10. Very visible.

There was one that occurred when licking the feet for a few minutes. No other foreplay.

Quite unique.

DSM521 · Feb 12, 2009, 06:44 PM

Originally Posted by KeepItSimpleStupid

As a male, I have seen and felt a womens's orgasm. It depends on what knob or button you twiddle.

The fun one was the one from "aural sex". I kept saying " for me". Everytime I said that, she did. After about 12 times, she said stop. This girl came in waves. Usually about 5 repititions of 10. Very visible.

There was one that occurred when licking the feet for a few minutes. No other foreplay.

Quite unique.

I don't know what to say but WOW!!