[natnat1707]

Hi There,

I have been with my husband since 20 we are now 34 and married 6 years. Life is horrible and has been ever since we got married. He is lazy, obbsessed with sports and basically has not grown up. He treats me like dirt every day.. says sorry and lets me down every single day. I try so hard with him to the stage now where I think he is taking me for granted and walking all over me. I earn more money than him so we cannot start a family with his income and all the fighting. I don't understand how he can constantly hurt me and let me down.. he is very selfish but then says I love you.

I feel scared and don't know how to get out because he is all I have known.. what do I do?

[Perdot]

Hi
I feel really bad for your situation. But from what you say, it sounds as if your husband does not want to leave you. If so, and if you are willing to work on your relationship, I suggest you put down some ground rules and make sure your husband adheres to them. Don't give him any chances to let you down.
What is it that hurts you? Does he behave in a particular way or say something? If so, he doesn't care for you; It all boils down to one thing: Do you love him and want the relationship to continue?
It doesn't matter if he has a lower income than you.. Don't let that come in between you two. But make sure you are not let down anymore. Keep a list of to-dos with you for each day; it may be day 1, no fighting on topic A, day 2, no fighting in topics A and B, and so on...
I know it's easy to say all this, but give it a try... Just might work..