[loulou111]

I've never complained to anyone about my mum because I never thought it was serious enough, but now I just can't stand her. For ages I've felt I've never had a proper connection with my mum, I see my friends with their mums and they are so different to how I am with mine. We hardly ever talk and are not close at all, she doesn't feel like my mum. She is hypocritical and gets angry at the most stupid things. I can't stand being around her. She is always telling me I'm stupid and I'm not smart enough to make my own decisions in life even though I'm 16. I'm getting really stressed out and upset which isn't good as I have my GCSE's coming up and I can't concentrate on anything. She doesn't seem to realise that I'm growing up and I can do stuff without her constantly criticizing me and now that she's got a boyfriend and I haven't she's rubbing it in my face that I haven't got one and I hate it. Its getting so bad that I want to move out but I wouldn't be able to afford a place to stay. Also I want to change my last name because to be honest its stupid and I get bullyed at school about it sometimes but of course mum says it's a stupid idea and she won't let me do it! She upsets me so much sometimes it makes me cry cause she is constantly putting me down, I can't talk to my friends about it cause I feel stupid. I just need someone to help me and give me advice on what I should do thanks.

[WebsiteSolution]

Sorry you are having problems with you mom. Im assuming you are still under 18 and living in her home -- that means you obey her rules. I suggest you sit down and talk to her, let her know how you feel about the way she treats you.

You are still a child and only have one mom. Regardless of how you feel about her now, if you lost her you would be sad and miss her. Believe me, I know.

Just keep trying to do the right thing.

• Obey her rules
• talk to her
• dont have an attitude every time you can't have your way
• do well in school
• do your chores
• be respectful
• show your mom that you are responsible and can be trusted, then she may be more willing to give you freedom.

With responsibility, comes freedom.
Hang in there, do your best and when you are 18, you can move into your own home, and go by your own rules, until that time -- be honest and respectful

God Bless You

[XM8]

Yea I totally agree with WebsiteSolution. She is your only mum after all and she's all you got.

Of course you're still 16 so you live under her rules, but it doesn't mean that you should definitely move out at 18. Try and make a new path forward, a path that leads to you being connected with your mother on a friendly basis, not a hostile one.

No one is perfect, so I'm sure you must be doing something's that annoy your mother, and you know it consciously (Even I do). I'm not here to criticize you, but I'm just saying that sometimes to make a friendship work you have to sacrifice a few things. More importantly, this is not just any friendship, it is a relationship with your mother, which should be one of the strongest and most important relationships in your life.

I wish you all the best - and by the way, don't change your last name because of a bunch of losers who you will forget in 5 years.

-Xm8