[mimi02jamin]

My daughter is 21 weeks and gets sharp pains, pressure under her belly when she walks & very tiered most of the time :eek:( she is on-Prenatel & Iron pills) Is how she feels normal & is there anything to help her during her pregnancy ? Also, She is very worried about having a miscarriage or when they are born they will have something wrong with them because she very stressed every day. :mad::confused: She doesn't have a permenet place to live for her new family, not been able to get things she needs for the babies when they come.:( Plus, the father is unable to get work. How & Where can they get assistance on getting into a place to live & Getting the things she needs for her (Twins) ? Plus, getting assistance on helping her boyfriend find a job ? :eek:

[DoulaLC]

Depending on their circumstances there is public assistance for housing, food, etc.. She may contact local churches, charities, pregnancy centers, health department, etc. for suggestions on obtaining items she will need for the babies. Shop second hand stores, garage sales, see if any friends or family have items they don't need anymore, etc.. Check with the local hospital or fire department, some have been known to provide free car seats to those who meet the financial requirements. The help is out there, sometimes it just takes several phone calls.

She really should let her doctor know about what she is feeling. Are the sharp pains constant or fleeting... as when she moves about or first gets up? Sometimes a sharp pain can be felt when a woman gets up too fast as the ligaments that support the uterus will be stretched. This should be only a momentary discomfort however. Some women will experience pain in the pubic, pelvis, and hip areas due to a condition where the joint in the front of the pubic bone separates a little too much during pregnancy. Pain is often noticed more when doing activities that separate the legs... walking up stairs, getting in and out of bed, etc. She will feel some pressure, often increasing as she walks, simply due to the weight of the growing uterus and babies. It can also put a good deal of stress on the lower back. Good posture is very important. She may find it helps to sit on a birth ball to relieve some pelvic and back pressure... or try sitting with pillows behind her so that she is sitting up straight or even slightly forward. Pillows tucked around while she sleeps can help support her belly at night. A pregnancy support belt helps some women with the pelvic and back pain.

She is passed the stage of when most miscarriages occur. Twins do often come a little early however, but no doubt her doctor is keeping an eye on things. Encourage her to try ways to help with the stress. Pregnancy yoga (she can rent a dvd for it), meditation, relaxing in a warm bath, soothing music, a nice back rub, getting the information on support services in your area that can help with some of the financial and baby items concerns.

Jobs are tough to come by in many areas right now, but her boyfriend can put in an application anywhere. It may not be a first choice, or even a second or third, but right now he can't afford to be picky and any job that is helping to bring some money in will be better than nothing. He can continue to look for something he is more interested in while he works. If he has marketable skills, he can do searches online as well. Would he be eligible for unemployment? That would be another possible option to look into.

Hope that gives you some ideas!