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Nostradamus_pk · Jan 29, 2009, 02:23 PM

Originally Posted by Nostradamus_pk

U said right range !!!

Geez my first post mentioned the girl i really really liked...I would marry her even now with eye shut. She is amazing....guess what she is dating someone almost 20 yr older than her.

There is no right range...I think

Part of my problem is when a girl come up to me and say You look nice today XXXXX, I don't know what to say back. Or some one come might close and smells me and tell me that they like my cologne I tell them its XXX you should buy that for ur BF.
lol

All I am getting from u guys is open your eyes, go to counselor (u r sick), the world is ugly, young gals are not good, I am sick in head bla bla bla

What is textspeak!!

Synnen · Jan 29, 2009, 02:29 PM

Using "u" instead of "You" and "r" instead of "are" is textspeak.

Please use proper English.

Justwantfair · Jan 29, 2009, 02:41 PM

I think that this all has stemmed from your own insecurities. First you are putting unrealistic expections on who you will date - your virgin fantasy... Second you would instantly marry a woman who is already spoken for (That is unless she was single, then no doubt you would find some flaw that made her not compatible with you either, like say the fact she is NOT a virgin).

How do you know that even if you found that rare virgin who is 19ish that everything else that makes a marriage successful would fall into place? What if she didn't want to date you strictly from the insult of fitting your dating "bill"?

You have to date women for who they are and what you like about them, not for their situation.

Nostradamus_pk · Jan 29, 2009, 02:49 PM

And I can't do that. That is so dumb.
Laughing out loudly

Justwantfair · Jan 29, 2009, 02:55 PM

Well good luck to you, hopefully you will not be back questioning why you are forty still an unmarried virgin.

When you set your expectations TOO high, you are set for a HUGE letdown.

Nostradamus_pk · Jan 29, 2009, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by Justwantfair

I think that this all has stemmed from your own insecurities. First you are putting unrealistic expections on who you will date - your virgin fantasy... Second you would instantly marry a woman who is already spoken for (That is unless she was single, then no doubt you would find some flaw that made her not compatible with you either, like say the fact she is NOT a virgin).

How do you know that even if you found that rare virgin who is 19ish that everything else that makes a marriage successful would fall into place? What if she didn't want to date you strictly from the insult of fitting your dating "bill"?

You have to date women for who they are and what you like about them, not for their situation.

Thank you for your kind words!

I am not insecure... having a fantasy makes you insecure. That's new for me.
I know I am asking for a lot here!

That women I said I would marry eyes shut... I was her friend(for my part) for three years... then I find out she broke up... with in a week she announced she is dating a guy like 20 years older than her. I never had a chance. Perhaps I am out of my league... If she can why can't I?? It's a little different scenario.

I wouldn't know if I have found the women I want even if she was 19ish+virgin... there is no guarantee there.
But at least one wish will be fulfilled... I wouldn't want to date any one who thinks its an insult to fit my dream girl.

If I date I will date women for who they are. I just want to find the Diamond... and give her every thing I have. If it doesn't work out that is another story.

Keep Going People I need this straighten out!

Nostradamus_pk · Jan 29, 2009, 03:04 PM

Thanks for your support

asking · Jan 29, 2009, 03:06 PM

Nostradamus,
I have to tell you that the people here disagree on LOT of things. The fact that we are pretty much all agreeing that you should (1)

date

women (2)

in their 20s

who are (3)

not necessarily virgins

should tell you something.

Who knows? You may get lucky and find a virgin. But if you go around trying to figure out if women are virgins before you'll even ask them out to a movie, you aren't going to get to even having a relationship.

Nostradamus_pk · Jan 29, 2009, 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by asking

Nostradamus,
I have to tell you that the people here disagree on LOT of things. The fact that we are pretty much all agreeing that you should (1) women (2) who are (3) should tell you something.

Who knows? You may get lucky and find a virgin. But if you go around trying to figure out if women are virgins before you'll even ask them out to a movie, you aren't going to get to even having a relationship.

And Thank you every one, here is what I want.
1. Date: sure why, having said that I am a virgin who has never even kissed a girl. Its going to be a challenge in it self.
2. Who are age range 18-22
3. If virgin Might ignore lot of other things, if not a virgin than I don't know has to be a love at first sight. Or something.

I admit I can't get pass the idea that I might have to kiss a girl who has been sucking penises since she was 15. That just is sickening, hence the virgin preference.

Crap
I am going to die alone!!

Synnen · Jan 29, 2009, 04:53 PM

See---THAT is your issue.

We ALL, every last one of us, has things in our past that should STAY in the past.

If you can't get over the fact that a girl has a life BEFORE you came into it, then you have bigger issues.

liz28 · Jan 29, 2009, 06:35 PM

Virgins are hard to find. Out of everyone I personally know I only have one virgin friend who is 33 years old.

I know this might be out topic but I found this interesting. Nowadays with modern technology you have virgins selling their virginity to the highest buyer because their no longer waiting for love but want the money. Here are some females doing this as we speak, you can read it if you want and Google more too. I just found it interesting. www.thefrisky.com/post/246-virgins-for-sale

smoothy · Jan 30, 2009, 06:04 AM

Originally Posted by Nostradamus_pk

U said right range !!!

Geez my first post mentioned the girl i really really liked...I would marry her even now with eye shut. She is amazing....guess what she is dating someone almost 20 yr older than her.

There is no right range...I think

Part of my problem is when a girl come up to me and say You look nice today XXXXX, I don't know what to say back. Or some one come might close and smells me and tell me that they like my cologne I tell them its XXX you should buy that for ur BF.
lol

All I am getting from u guys is open your eyes, go to counselor (u r sick), the world is ugly, young gals are not good, I am sick in head bla bla bla

No you are simply misunderstanding what we are trying to tell you...

From what you are telling us we see a man who is interested ONLY in 18-20 year old virgins... and appears unwilling to even consider an older or non-virgin woman.

We base our advice on what you say here in this thread. None of us know you personally.

Can it work with a big age gap? Yes, but its far more likely to be the source of problems. Maybe not at first but over time it will. Early into a relationship everyone behaves like they expect the other person wants... stay together for a long time or get married people stop doing that, start doing what they want and the problems start.

The part where you don't know what to do if a woman comes up to you for the above mentioned reasons...

First thing to do is not assume they are being anything but friendly... in most cases that's all it is. Be friendly in return, thank them for any compliments and be nice. Don't assume they are interested or anything... if they are by any chance interested they will continue the conversation, THere are a lot of body language cues that can tell if she appears interested at first but they are beyond what can be discussed simply in a thread. Women can see desperation and it will send them running... away from you.

Rule #1 is talk to them like you would your mom or sister... not a potiential wife.

Rule #2. Don't plan your life out in your head with someone you have only just met or worse haven't even spoken to yet.

Rule #3. Even if they are interested they are human too. And just as likely to be nervous.

Rule #4. First impressions usually make or break any chances you have to date them.

liz28 · Jan 30, 2009, 06:43 AM

You can't always get what you want and you won't always find what your looking for. So what do you do when this happens? Change your standards and be more open and focus of other aspects of a woman. Don't you want someone you can laugh and enjoy life with? Someone that is motivated, respect themselves and others? Someone who isn't going use you and who you can build something with? And the list is endless.

As long as you keep focusing on one thing your miss out on a lot. Start socializing. Do some speed dating, go to a single mixer, you can find single females where you least expect it. Or the new way to meet someone is over the internet on websites such as match.com, eharmony, to name a few. Get out and mangle.

Nostradamus_pk · Jan 30, 2009, 07:02 AM

Originally Posted by liz28

You can't always get what you want and you won't always find what your looking for. So what do you do when this happens? Change your standards and be more open and focus of other aspects of a woman. Don't you want someone you can laugh and enjoy life with? Someone that is motivated, respect themselves and others? Someone who isn't going use you and who you can build something with? And the list is endless.

As long as you keep focusing on one thing your miss out on alot. Start socializing. Do some speed dating, go to a single mixer, you can find single females where you least expect it. Or the new way to meet someone is over the internet on websites such as match.com, eharmony, to name a few. Get out and mangle.

Thanks Liz.
It is true. In the big picture I am missing a lot. But, its just so hard.

It feels like every one is telling me to give up.
Accept, that I am defeated!

I am not going to get what I want...

Nostradamus_pk · Jan 30, 2009, 07:04 AM

Okay, one more thing its not like I walk up to gals and my first question is Are you a virgin??

I don' do that, that's just disgusting and being a pervert.

But the fear of knowing that she(them) is not keeps me away.

smoothy · Jan 30, 2009, 07:15 AM

Originally Posted by Nostradamus_pk

Okay, one more thing its not like I walk up to gals and my first question is Are you a virgin???

I don' do that, that's just disgusting and being a pervert.

But the fear of knowing that she(them) is not keeps me away.

See now that is part of what we are talking about... and why it would be good to see a counciler. That's not a normal thought or fear to be focusing on. If they can help you overcome that problem some of your other ones might take care of themselves and go away.

KellyAlexander · Jan 30, 2009, 08:25 AM

Well let me start by saying... you sound pretty damn creepy. Now maybe you're "behind"... perhaps... "blooming a little late" and you want a younger girl because you feel "more cool" around someone so young and immature. BUT that's just it.. your 28... why do you want to date a child... that's just creepy!