[kelly1185]

Okay about 5 days ago me and my Hubby and intercourse he didn't pull out the following day it happened again.I am fine with it I love kids I am youn (20) but I want kids soon. E thought I might be and I got super happy. He was scared at first but came around to it quickly. We choose names went furniture shopping. Lol I know we did this in 5 days. :D BUT then I got my period:( and I was heart broken. So I told him that I would like to start tyring to have a baby soon, I know we have to clear up some debt and all that's fine. But now he says he doesn't want one for a while. I am confused I am not sure if I could be pregnant although I want to be I am starting to dout it I have my normal period and now I am hurt cause I thought he wanted a baby. A while back I wanted kids he told me not yet to intertain me he bought me a puppy. Lol I have two other animals to keep me busy but I WANT A BABY. Does anyone have an idea why he would be like this now?? Help me understand him. And does anyone know if there is a slight ray of hope that can still be pregnant.:confused:

[J_9]

I hate to deflate your bubble. But if you had your period chances are very slim that you are pregnant.

Why is it that you WANT A BABY? I have to know everything to guide you in the right direction. Is it just so that you will have someone who depends on you unconditionally and love you unconditionally?

He may be acting like this because he may feel pressured into being a father. Just to explain...

You thought you might be pregnant, went shopping, and so on. Men are not like women when it comes to babies. Most men are scared to death about the idea of fatherhood...

Let me ask why you want a baby at 20. I was 22 with my first and it was way too early for me.

You need to be sure this is right for you. Consider the expenses, daycare where I live is $95 per week, that is cheap.

Just be sure you are ready for a lifetime commitment.

[kelly1185]

I have always wanted kids and the though of a little baby thrills me. I want to have that joy of life, the chaging diapers the waking up in the middle of the night to see what's wrong with my baby. When there one I want to see them try to walk or teach them there first word. Laugh as the try to sit a bean up there nose as I despreatly try to feed them. I know the pros and cons not going out so much being on a budget possibly leaving my job to raise the little monster lol my husband wants me to saty home and raise our child I agree. I want a family

[J_9]

Well, you sound ready. But remember the hell they can put you through when they are sick and there is nothing you can do, (my 4 year old had menengitis when he was 7 months, spent a week in the hospital).

So just be sure you are ready for all of the downfalls that come along with children.

[kelly1185]

I know I don't think I will be 100% ready but I have paitance and I really want to be a mother regardless of what I have to give up. But I also want my child to have a good life so I can't just have one with out a plan

[J_9]

Well, then time to make a plan and a goal. You could set a 2 year goal to get bills paid etc.

It is also important to know that no matter what planning you do, you are never really ready. There will be things that come up that you will not be ready to deal with, such as if the little one swallows a quarter when he is 9 and you spend all night in the hospital waiting for a surgeon to show up.

That one is a true story, and no one was ready for that.

Just make a plan, but don't be disappointed if you are not pregnant exactly when you want to be. These things happen at their own place and time. No one can predict it, it just happens.

Good luck.

[kelly1185]

Lol yea well I swallod a ring when I was 6 lol I grew up wwwith an older sister and five cousins always together. And I look forward to my kids having what I had. :D