[teastalk]

I have been asked out by several people for dates.

At least, I think they are dates, I don't think I'm wrong about it. One guy has asked me out for at least 3-4 dates. Of those dates I went to 3 of those, but I don't think he's the one for me. So, I don't want to go out on the dates with him anymore, so I just plan to refuse his requests from now onwards.

Then another guy has asked me out to hang out before school starts. However, I don't see any potential with him, so I just don't want to go. Therefore, I don't think that we will go out even on this first date.

Anyway, what I'm asking is:

1) Do you guys go out on any/all dates you are invited to?

AND

2) What are your requirements/guidelines/reasons why you refuse or accept a date invitation?

[artlady]

Wow, sorry to say it but you sound a little snooty as in *just plan to refuse his requests from now onwards* That sounds snobbish.

You date people who are like you.Who share your interests.

One thing you do not do is put people in a category and undermine them as people.

Your post asking *What are your requirements/guidelines/reasons why you refuse or accept a date invitation?

Don't you have your own feelings? Are you looking at what others will think as opposed to what you feel?

Honey,that is superficial and is never going to do you any good.

Don't be petty ,don't be small ,look at others who they are without judgment, Be real, not fake.

Do you want a real person or just a cute nice dressed idiot?

[teastalk]

Hmm, when I was posting this question, I realized it did sound bad. The reason why I posted it was because I usually always accept date invitations and it's making me feel bad. I don't really want to go out some times and I'm not sure how to tell the guys "no." I have been saying that I have other plans and I'm sorry that I can't go, but when they persist, I feel really bad about telling them "no" each time.

However, after I go out on a couple of dates, I know that my feelings start to change. I'm not sure what it is, but I start to feel more affectionate towards them, and I don't think this is a good thing.