[lostandconfused]

OK last year I met this guy and we started "talking" well a long story short I went away for a couple of days and came back and some stuff was told to me about him and I ended it because I have been through enough and I already don't trust do to parents and boyfriends who have hurt me in the worst ways, some more stuff happened and he ended up stabbing me (not meaning too) well I laft him and I didn't talk to him for a long time! I got sent away to shelters and then went to my moms and I got a call saying he was looking for me and that he missed me, well I just said forget it. When I came back I was driving down the road with a friend and we saw him he pulled over to talk to me and I gave him my number and told him to call me. Well another long story short we staring dating again and out of no where he told me that he loved me and that he hasn't been able to stop thinking about me since the day I left, and at first I didn't believe him. Should I? Well my sister was having her baby so I came up here to Virginia and I have the feeling he is cheating on me! And then the fact that I think he changed he has been an *** to me lately. What do I do and should I trust him?

[KK2]

Move on- once a cheater, always a cheater.

[KK2]

Oh... & how did he accidentally stab you? With a knife- accident?!

[talaniman]

If you stay away from him and go on with your life I bet you would not be as lost or confused.

[Krs]

As if honey!
Don't u dare.
Start a fresh and you won't be confused any longer just as Talaniman said!
Good luck x

[valinors_sorrow]

You can't really trust him, and some part of you knows it... in fact you don't know how to trust really (you say so in your post even - "and i already dont trust due to parents and boyfriends who have hurt me in the worst ways") And to make matters worse, you probably don't know how to learn to trust appropriately or even how to pick trustworthy people... and if that's true, it isn't your fault, okay?

If I may... gently, lovingly points out that you sound stuck in a very dysfunctional lifestyle with all the trimmings that go with it: broken trust, hurt feelings, cheating, violence - accidental or otherwise, personal crisis, shelters, etc. That is more the problem than anything - the whole "almost ghetto" lifestyle - it is a culture that feeds on itself and there you are in it. I can imagine how lost and confused you feel. That is the bad news.

The good news is you can do something about it since you obviously can read, write, observe, think and learn. Truthfully, it won't be easy but, on my word, it will prove to be 100% worth it.

The steps are:
1. First you change you - You decide if you want to stay stuck where you are or not. What are you worth to YOU?
2. Then you change your circumstances - Look for any and all education available so you can get a job and provide for yourself and use economics to help climb out of the dysfunctional lifestyle.
3. Then you change your choices, one by one - By making yourself come first (decision #1) and bettering yourself (decision #2) you will automatically begin to pick everything with more care - your job, your residence, your friends and your boyfriend. You'll find yourself in better company and attract better people.

I don't mean to overwhelm you. Its one thing at a time. We will help all we can here. I just think you are well worth the effort for all this but its what you think that really counts...

[Chery]

ok last year i met this guy and we started "talking" well a long story short i went away for a couple of days and came back and some stuff was told to me about him and i ended it because i have been through enough and i already dont trust do to parents and boyfriends who have hurt me in the worst ways, some more stuff happened and he ended up stabbing me (not meaning too) well i laft him and i didnt talk to him for a long time! i got sent away to shelters and then went to my moms and i got a call saying he was looking for me and that he missed me, well i just said forget it. when i came back i was driving down the road with a friend and we saw him he pulled over to talk to me and i gave him my number and told him to call me. well another long story short we staring dating again and out of no where he told me that he loved me and that he hasnt been able to stop thinking about me since the day i left, and at first i didnt believe him. should i? well my sister was having her baby so i came up here to virgina and i have the feeling he is cheating on me! and then the fact that i think he changed he has been an *** to me lately. what do i do and should i trust him?

Honey, read Val's (valinors_sorrow) advice, and keep in touch with us. We will help you all we can from here - and there are no strings attached, just a sincere wish to prove to you that there's more out there.


Leave it behind and look forward.

[gifted4ever]

He's no good to you he will always HURT YOU. Do you want that?

[alabee]

Wake up!:mad: From your sleep Oh wishful one... Wake up:rolleyes: and be on your heels, because he doesn't care. He is going to sleep with whomever whenever (i.e. gives him the chance). He can't ever stop... run... like the wind far away from him... (He probably just found himself:D use your imagination)

[lostandconfused]

No I don't want that but things have gotten worse now!

[valinors_sorrow]

no i dont want that but things have gotten worse now!!

It will do that unless you take some action to make it better. I'm sorry, Lost, but that is how it works... for you and for all of us.

[talaniman]

Having two threads that say the same thing is sure confusing

[lostandconfused]

Huh?