[dtcandelaria]

I am Christian, and I married a "divorced" (as evidenced on his divorced paper) man and he became a "christian." After 12 years of marriage and 3 children, last year he visited his country to visit his ailing mother after 14 years of not stepping his foot on his country's soil. This year he visited his country again to celebrate his mom's birthday. After a few days after he came back from his country, I saw some pictures with his family in his country and I found out that it was not over between them yet. First question, is our marriage unrecognized by God ? Second question, am I sinning because he still has relationship with his wife in his country ? Tks.

[babygirl85]

You are not sinning. Sounds to me like he is. You went into the relationship "knowing" that he was divorced and no longer connected to his ex wife. So the fault is on him. (my opinion)

God sees all

[black111madonna]

Marrying a (divorced) man who left his country and family means that a part of him will always be there. He loves his mother and I think its very normal if he misses her and the rest of the family. You did not mention if he has kids from the woman he divorced.
That would make it extra difficult for him.
It is also not clear if he really divorced her or that he has a relationship with his former wife.
You cannot judge someone for loving his mother and family, but it would not be right if he gets involved again with the former wife.
Probably its old feelings they once shared but he should not feed it and leave you in doubt.
You and your kids are his family and his life is with you and the kids. If he thinks otherwise you ve got a problem.
Visiting his mom and family is OK but having feelings again for the former wife is out of the question... his feelings should be with you!

I wish you all the best and strength in this unpleasant period.

[Fr_Chuck]

I am not sure what you "saw" in some photos, but if your ex and his family is close she may have went to see him after all those years. So you saw her in some photos? Not sure why this is cheating or not being over.

I see my ex on a regular basis, even took her to see the governor with me the other day and had her photo and my photo taken and put on the governors web site together, does not mean we are still a couple.

So you did not show anything except he took his photo with his ex??

[arcura]

Fr Chuck,
You made some good points.
Just seeing pictures with his former wife in them does not prove that he is getting involved with her again.
I think she needs to talk about this with here husband.
Peace and kindness,
Fred