[brittanyl]

Okay well I have this awsome yet amazing boyfriend and on the other hand I have this girlfriend who isn't very nice.im confused about this because I've tried to breakup with girl and she didn't understand I told her a couple time but she says we are still together.whenever she's near me I feel sort of bad but I don't want to hurt her and I was wondering how could I let her down easy that I don't want to be with her?

[ROLCAM]

You cannot have the cake and eat it too!
You must take a stand and make your choice.
Sometimes one needs to be very hard to
Survive.

[Jake2008]

Frienships have their ups and downs, but when it is balanced, both ends usually end up in the same place. Common ground.

When a friendship is unbalanced, and falls apart for whatever reason, you have to stop and think, 'who's needs are being met'. If you are no longer enjoying her company, and as you said, you feel uncomfortable around her, it is unbalanced.

That she sees her friendship with you differently than you see it with her, you have to stop and take a good long look at the advantages of maintaining such a relationship.

It isn't easy, but if you realize you need to move away from the friendship, you must tell her. (I get the impression that she is reluctant to let go).

It is far better to tell her to her face in a kind way that you just do not feel the same, and although she's a great person, your feelings aren't going to change, and you both have to move on.

No doubt this will happen to you at some point in your life as well. Better to hear it first hand than be ignored and confused as to why your friend avoids you.

Good luck Brittany.

[liz28]

No matter how nice you try to tell her that you don't want to be with her she is try going feel hurt. So your better out just telling her sooner than later. There's no reason to drag this on.

However, I am a little confuse about your post. Did you and this girl have something more than just a friendship? If so, was you cheating on your boyfriend with her, did she know you even had a boyfriend?

[GRUNDEL75]

If you were romanticly involved with this young lady - I would consider looking as something she may have given you as a memento to secure the relationship and then return and say something to the effect that now that we are no longer involved I feel I should return this to you - I wouldn't feel right keeping it.

[brittanyl]

Okay well over winterbreak I met this guy this sweet guy and we kissed he assumed and I didn't say anything and I told my friend and well the girl I was with found out and got mad at me but I didn't tell her that this boy and I were together at the time I was confused about it but I talked to my other friend and she helped me out but you guys did too so thanks

[GRUNDEL75]

Glad to be of help brit.