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MarkwithaK · Jan 21, 2009, 10:42 PM

Damn I just do not understand how people find the skinny, rail thin model types attractive. Give me a healthy woman with curves any day!

jcruz · Jan 22, 2009, 09:22 PM

Originally Posted by MarkwithaK

Damn I just do not understand how people find the skinny, rail thin model types attractive. Give me a healthy woman with curves any day!

Curves are fine if they're like the before photo, but do you find what she's become more attractive? Do curves include a big belly and rolls of fat?

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MarkwithaK · Jan 22, 2009, 09:31 PM

Originally Posted by jcruz

Curves are fine if they're like the before photo, but do you find what she's become more attractive? Do curves include a big belly and rolls of fat?

First of all if you READ what I wrote then you will see the word healthy in there. Go ahead. Check. It's still there.
Second of all that little picture thing is entirely inappropriate.

bnc995 · Jan 22, 2009, 09:32 PM

Yeah, your in the ideal weight range, 5 or 10 pounds over tops. Its not like your 300 pounds, so don't worry about it.

MarkwithaK · Jan 22, 2009, 09:40 PM

If you are basing this on the body mass index please don't. That chart is seriously flawed.

starbuck8 · Jan 22, 2009, 10:24 PM

Originally Posted by bnc995

yeah, your in the ideal weight range, 5 or 10 pounds over tops. Its not like your 300 pounds, so dont worry about it.

And if she is 300lbs she isn't worthy? I can see that as a health issue perhaps, but it sounds like you're saying that someone that is 300lbs is something to hang your head about, and be ashamed of. The OP said that her boyfriend focusing on this has affected her self esteem.

I don't think she should feel pressured by her boyfriend or anyone else, to be a certain size or weight, for her height, as long as she's healthy. She did say she works out 4 times a week! It does seem to me that she IS doing this for her boyfriend. No one should do anything like this for someone else. It has to be done for themselves, and what I took from the question, was that she was perfectly fine with herself before. She didn't mention any health issues, and probably would have not been thinking about this, had her boyfriend not told her that it bothered HIM! I don't think it matters if she asked him or not. I didn't hear her mention if he said he would love her regardless. I get a sense--and the OP can correct me if I'm wrong--that this is a BIG issue with her boyfriend, so she is feeling pressured to lose this weight because HE is unsatisfied!

I'm curious to know. I'm 5'8", and approx. 140lbs. Would you think that is the ideal weight for me? Remember, it's really easy to go by a chart.

MarkwithaK · Jan 22, 2009, 10:33 PM

We, as a society, have become so inundated with this that it baffles me. If you want to lose weight then fine but do it for yourself, not to fit into someone else's idea of what you should look like.

starbuck8 · Jan 22, 2009, 10:47 PM

Originally Posted by MarkwithaK

We, as a society, have become so inundated with this that it baffles me. If you want to lose weight then fine but do it for yourself, not to fit into someone else's idea of what you should look like.

I know! That's why kids as young as six years old, think they should go on diets! That is absolutely insane! All they see and hear, is that they have to look like Paris or Brittney, (where there is a lot of air brushing going on) or have that runway model look! There is such peer pressure to look that way! Children are killing themselves trying to fit in to this barbie doll world!---and some are actually literally killing and hurting themselves by things like 'cutting', and even committing suicide because they can't fit into a size ZERO! There is something SO wrong with the messages being sent! It doesn't matter. If you don't love yourself, losing weight for someone else will only cause more hurt. If the relationship breaks up, which---lets face it---so many young relationships do---the person will think that their weight was the problem, and there it starts on a trail of low self worth.

MarkwithaK · Jan 22, 2009, 10:51 PM

I would venture to guess that this is how many eating disorders (Anorexia, Bulimia) get started. I have an aunt that dated this one loser many many years ago and he would constantly tell her she was fat so she wouldn't eat. She is about 5'8" maybe 100lbs. If that.

starbuck8 · Jan 22, 2009, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by MarkwithaK

I would venture to guess that this is how many eating disorders (Anorexia, Bulimia) get started. I have an aunt that dated this one loser many many years ago and he would constantly tell her she was fat so she wouldn't eat. She is about 5'8" maybe 100lbs. if that.

I think that is exactly where the eating disorders come from, as well as the advertising and everything you see these days. I had an ex that used to be very controlling also. At any given time, I was too fat---too skinny---too fat.. It basically started like the OP's question. Now I actually have a hard time keeping my body weight UP! I was young at the time, and I listened to this ::hesitating:: man. I gained weight, lost weight, gained weight.. Now as I'm a little older, it is hard for me to control my weight, because it's all screwed up! That is the reason I asked the question about what someone on here would say about my current weight, based on a body weight/ height chart. I know. I wanted to see what someone else's guess would be!