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    Jason8676 Posts: 102, Reputation: 8
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    Jan 20, 2009, 09:59 PM
    Why Is My Ex Contacting Me?
    Hello,
    Lately my ex-girlfriend whom I have known for over 10 years has been contacting me-either by leaving lame text messages or "No Number" calls. I've not spoken to her since May and that was via a text message. After that, I went strict No Contact and never looked back as I was fed up with her stupid messages-when I would respond and try to make up with her she just ignored it. On Dec. 22, at about 10:40 P.M. my phone rang for a few seconds. I looked at the caller I.D. and it said "No Number". A few minutes later, it rang again, this time going to my voice mail. She left no message but I was pretty sure it was her. Imagine my surprise when on New Years Day, at about 8:55 P.M. when I received a text from her. This may sound retarded, but here is what she said, "This is Nita Berenstein from the Build-A-Bear Workshop(it is a shop/kiosk at the mall in my area where you can make your own teddy bear). You need to come and pick up your bear. Our hours are 10-6 Mon. thru Sat. and 12-6 Sun." Then, two weeks later on Jan. 15 at about 11:16 P.M. I get the same identical message. It was followed up at 11:40 P.M. with "Hey this is Nita again. If you don't come and pick up your bear we will either bring it to your house or work." A number WAS displayed with the text messages. I was itching to respond by saying something sarcastic but I talked myself out of it and stuck to my guns. Part of me thinks she is just trying to get under my skin after all this time, but the other half thinks that maybe she wants me to respond which would in turn get us talking again. Nevertheless, I'm keeping No Contact up and going on about my business. What do you all think her motives are?
    Thanks,
    Jason
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    MarkwithaK Posts: 955, Reputation: 107
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    Jan 20, 2009, 10:03 PM

    She is screwing with you... and not in the good way! Call the business that you received the texts from. If there is no one there by that name then you know it was bogus.
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    Jan 21, 2009, 02:06 AM
    Your ex has gone nuts. Ignore her phone calls, stick to nC
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    Jan 21, 2009, 02:16 AM

    Honestly man, if I were in your shoes, I would change your number.

    I read your previous posts. This girl definitely sounds like bad news. You are better than that my man. 10+ years... jesus. And the way she treated you...

    She is poison. Medusa. Beelzebul. Lucifer. The iceburg that sunk the titanic.

    Steer well away of that one. Actually... I would actively avoid the crazy witch. Make yourself disappear to her. Change your address. Change your number... at the very least.
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    zeeniee Posts: 341, Reputation: 63
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    Jan 21, 2009, 03:52 AM

    Hi Jason 8676,
    It does not matter what her motives are.

    What matters is her behaviour is not a good piece of news for you and you must protect yourself from her- she sounds quite nuts!

    Change your phone number- as she will probably continue to harass you.
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    liz28 Posts: 4,662, Reputation: 1034
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    Jan 21, 2009, 04:57 AM

    Your doing good by not opening the doors again. It could be a number of reasons to why she's calling you but keep your tough skin and don't give in.

    Does she know where you work because if she does watch out. If you change your number she might start harassing you there so be careful. This girl isn't working with a full deck and people like her won't give up.
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    HistorianChick Posts: 2,556, Reputation: 825
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    Jan 21, 2009, 08:16 AM

    It's annoying, isn't it?

    I'd change that number. Me? I got a new phone, new number, and a new provider.

    ONLY give that new number to people you trust, or you'll be starting it all over again.

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