[YesIamIam]

I've never been in a good relationship, I've never felt loved. I've never known a man that was like the ones in romantic comedies. I see posts of men on this site and others, and I can't believe these kind souls are male. I feel so bad saying it but I think I've convinced myself that good guys who care about their girlfriend and communicate that affection don't exist in real life. Please tell me I'm wrong, I need to find one. I mean, I'm a good person. I know I am. I love making my boyfriends feel good and doing sweet things like leaving notes on cars to let them know I really care. Are there guys out there who are like me? Do any of you women have good guys? Know of any? Are you one? Want to share some experiences to give me back my faith in nice guys being real?

[YesIamIam]

I promise Im not meaning to be offensive. I'm sure guys feel like this about women. I'm sorry if it sounds bad.

[BlackVY]

Hmmm... trust me... there are good guys out there... I know it doesn't have same impact as u'd hoped, coming from a guy, but personally, I'm a nice guy who knows how to treat his woman well and I know my friends are the same... but we are all having a hard time finding good women... so I guess it works both ways...

Just believe that in time, the right guy will come along, someone you've always been waiting for, the perfect guy for you, and he would have found his perfect woman in you... Peace :)

[kctiger]

You just need to have some faith. You cannot generalize your awful experiences to all of us guys out there. I am a GREAT guy. Yes, I will toot my horn... a solid catch. BUT... I am nowhere near perfect, and I do have flaws. The key is finding someone who can accept me for my flaws, and not try and mold me into something I am not.

Of course there are good guys out there. There are a TON. There are also some a$$holes too, same thing goes for the women. I find, that usually, when you least expect it, someone comes along and sweeps you off your feet. That is probably the biggest joy of being a guy (haven't had a child yet), is to be able to genuinely sweep a girl off her feet, and see her smile.

One day it will happen to you. I promise. You are a great person, and all good things come to those who can be patient. So.. be patient, enjoy life, don't look for anything, but rather... enjoy everything. It's when you aren't looking (or expecting may be a better word) that the best things happen.

Carry on... :cool:

[wolfgangqpublic]

Not to be insulting in any way, but if all the guys you are dating are s who don't seem to care about you, then what's the common denominator? YOU.

You're not undeserving of love. Either your standards are way too high of what you expect of them (life is not a non-stop romantic comedy) or you are finding yourself attracted to a certain type of guy that just happens to be the jerky kind. Trust me, plenty of guys and girls I know seem to go back to that same bad model over and over again without really taking the time to realize it.

[jmw0713]

I've never known a man that was like the ones in romantic comedies.

You can't look for guys with this frame in your mind. You will never find one that fits this stereotype. That is all fantasy and movies. In reality no guy is perfect or like the guys in the movies. No relationship is perfect like the ones in movies. Hollywood tries to create what THEY think is the perfect guy and girl and the perfect sweet romantic relationship. Then they pick attractive ACTORS to play these roles. It's Hollywood, not real life.

Real life is way different and rarely, if ever, works like what you see in the movies.

If you go looking for a relationship and a guy with this fantasy in mind... you are going to be continuously disappointed. Those ex BF's of yours may have been really swell guys, but if you compared your relationships and/or their action with what happens in the movies, you need a serious reality check.

Movies don't happen in real life, only on the Hollywood set with a Hollywood script.

Good relationships do exist. Good guys are out there. You cannot compare them with the Hollywood mold, because those types don't exist.

[talaniman]

Just a suggestion, leave the guys alone, and give that loving you have to yourself, and be happy without a man to love. Then you will see the real men from the fakes.

It not about giving love to someone else, its about loving yourself, and sharing it.