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Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 01:11 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

I think next week- i am thinking of having some ME time, gym,swimming, sunbathing.

Then i need to sort out a few things- that i basically hate doing- might as well get them done and out the way.

I really need to get a camera- and so i thought of getting it.

Then i would just like to chill and see friends etc and generally have a break

I actually have spent quiet a bit of time in Singapore. I did my bachelors from NUS.

Good luck with the vacation, hope you enjoy ureself and remember in the end it will al be better

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 01:16 AM

NUS Really OMG! Small world indeed!
I am working at Biopolis- it only became a place 3 years ago in Singapore.

Hahaha- you have just made my day!

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 01:20 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

NUS Really OMG! small world indeed!!
I am working at Biopolis- it only became a place 3 years ago in Singapore.

hahaha- you have just made my day!

You guys have quiet a huge Indian community over there. I was surprised ( felt like I never left pakistan).

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 01:25 AM

Hey Dare 81,
It is actually crazy here in Singapore- so many communities and religions and everyone gets along well- that is really great etc.
Singapore is truly a cosmopolitan place and thank god they have all the british shops, and food- or else I think I would get v homesick! I think they have more british shops and food than they do in Trafford Centre! Lol.

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 01:28 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

Hey Dare 81,
It is actually crazy here in Singapore- so many communities and religions and everyone gets along well- that is really great etc.
Singapore is truely a cosmopolitan place and thank god they have all the british shops, and food- or else i think i would get v homesick!! I think they have more british shops and food than they do in Trafford Centre! lol.

I had way more fun in Singapore then I have had here in the U.S. I think the girls are pretier too over there lol

expat2009 · Jan 20, 2009, 02:43 AM

I'm sure there are some really good looking guys also right Zeeniee ;)?

More than one of those would probably love to meet you!

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 03:31 AM

Hahah you guys make me grin- well yes there are many guys here in Singapore- but I am going to be single for a while- I figgered there are a few things I want to achieve before I get into a relationship again!

I guess I am being sensible- but also I think one would need a fair bit of time before getting involved again.

Single life it is for now- sucks!
Smiles
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Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 03:43 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

hahah you guys make me grin- well yes there are many guys here in Singapore- but i am gonna be single for a while- i figgered there are a few things i want to achieve before i get into a relationship again!!

I guess i am being sensible- but also i think one would need a fair bit of time before getting involved again.

Single life it is for now- sucks!!
smiles
x

That's the way I feel too, after 8 years of being in a relationship I am beginning to appreciate the freedom that I have now

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 03:58 AM

Yeah I know what you mean- freedom- what is that? I think I am just starting to figger it again and in some ways is a beautiful thing and in some ways it really scares me- lik ethe other day when I was chatting with my friend about where we can go on hols - iit occurred to me that I can pretty much go anywhere in this planet- scary...
At the same time- with what I have been through and still going thru- I am now f***ing scared of guys! Sorry to say this- but it is true...

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 04:01 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

Yeah i know what you mean- freedom- what is that?? i think i am just starting to figger it again and in some ways is a beautiful thing and in some ways it really scares me- lik ethe other day when i was chatting with my friend about where we can go on hols - iit occurred to me that i can pretty much go anywhere in this planet- scary...
At the same time- with what i have been thru and still going thru- i am now f***ing scared of guys!! sorry to say this- but it is true...

By the time you get over this you want be scared of us anymore.lol:}

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 04:16 AM

Well we shall see! I am sure I will be fine in time as I am not narrow minded person- not all guys will be like the ex! Some will be worse and some will be better!

Well at least I know what kind of guy I would like to meet this time- so that's handy to know!

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 04:24 AM

Not all guys will be like the ex! Some will be worse and some will be better!

I don't think mine can get any worse, but we will see.Hopefully they get better

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 04:29 AM

What happened with your relationship- I read the post and you did not say- hope you don't mind me asking..

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 04:42 AM

Well basically me and my ex we broke up about 3 years ago 6 years into the relationship, I begged her to come back hung around for a whole year, she finally decided after a whole year of tagging me along that he wanted us to be in a relationship with me, found out she was with a couple of other guys while she was tagging me along. No biggie. This time around the relationship lasted for 2 years, everything was going great, we were talking about getting married, bought a ring a plane ticket to go and propose to her( she lives on the east coast I live on the west coast).She didn't know I was coming. I get a call from her a day before I was suppose to leave saying that she didn't think it was going to work and started rehashing all the old stuff I though we had already gone over. Long story short she broke up with me again. I feel like a total dumbass for trusting the same person twice.

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 04:56 AM

Hey Dare 81,
I am truly sorry to hear this. I don't think you should feel like a total dumbass- you obviously loved and believed in her v much to give it a second go- that is what people do when they are in love. One thing I have learnt- once a person cheats on you- they will do it again- whether it was a one night stand, or a quick flirt or them just getting an extra cherry on the cake... that is what happened to me... and so take your time and heal well and keep chatting here- yeah look at the bright side- at least she does not bring her new man (if she has one) over and parks herself two minutes from your place!

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 05:05 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

Hey Dare 81,
I am truely sorry to hear this. I don't think you should feel like a total dumbass- you obviously loved and believed in her v much to give it a second go- that is what people do when they are in love. One thing i have learnt- once a person cheats on you- they will do it again- whether it was a one night stand, or a quick flirt or them just getting an extra cherry on the cake... that is what happened to me... and so take your time and heal well and keep chatting here- yeah look at the bright side- at least she does not bring her new man (if she has one) over and parks herself two mins from your place!!

Yeah I guess you are right.A long term relationship takes a long time to get over, but NC really does make my life a lot easier. No confusion and no drama.

zeeniee · Jan 20, 2009, 05:09 AM

That is very true- NC = no confusion, no drama, just aload of pain and sadness to deal with and there is no escape from it...

Dare81 · Jan 20, 2009, 05:12 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

That is very true- NC = no confusion, no drama, just aload of pain and sadness to deal with and there is no escape from it ...

That gets easier with time. I am almost 2 months into NC and I can tell u I feel a lot better now then I did right after the break up, I can go to sleep get up probably think about her a couple of hours a day before it was every minute of the day, so it does get better

zeeniee · Jan 23, 2009, 05:37 AM

Hi, The ex just called. I had to pick the phone up as I got a new one and I don't have all the numbers in yet and so I did not know who it was- I knew it was not the ex because it was different number, I assume (assume wrong) that it was either my brother or dad as I recognise my mums mobile number.

He is peeved about his decks- I was calm and I told him ann- could not find the deck lids- sorry. Then he told me one deck is new and the other is old and the needles and wire is missing. I said oh right- best to take this up with ann- as you left them with her. All I did is wrapped them up and sent them over- sorry and hung up...

Now I know that number- I will not pick up if it rings again.

I actually have a new number- but as I use the mobile phone for work as well, I had to issue the new number to work and activate that number in 4 weeks time to notify relevant staff- apparently this is company policy as I work across the board with UK, China and Verona. This is the best way forward as I can only see him ringing when he needs something.

Obviously he has not learnt v much of his actions- I have a feeling he never will

zeeniee · Jan 23, 2009, 05:38 AM

I also got a brand new bed today and got rid of the old one (well 2 years old)... I had to as I just don't feel right sleeping in that bed... it makes my skin crawl! - hopefully I will sleep better in time

I have had a v long day at work- and now after this, I just feel rather depressed and low...