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debmay608 · Jan 18, 2009, 04:06 PM

My 23 year old son spies on me for the people I work with. He also spreads lies about me in the small town, and surrounding area where we live.
Recently he has been telling people that I am a pedifile and that I try to seduce him. Like every one else I abhore child molesters. Today while in the grocery store this small child was telling his mother that I liked little childeren, and that he was scared of me. He was telling her that this is what my son says. The same thing happened in the neiboring town yeasterday when I was shopping. This hurts me deaply, because I worked very hard to be a good parent. I have been a single mother for 20 years. I would never harm a child.
He also tells the people I work with that I don't do anything around the house. That I eat too much, and don't do anything to help him. He tells them everything I say. I have no privacy. He and the people that I work with are distroying my life. I have lived here for 23 years and I might have to move. How do I get my son, and the people I to leave me alone .

ja77 · Jan 18, 2009, 04:12 PM

Hi and welcome to the forum.

Does your son live in your house ? If so I would show him the door until he learnt that this was not on.

Have you confronted him about all of this and tried to get to the bottom of why he is acting this way. I know that he is your child but I would also seek legal advise in regards to what he is saying about yourself.

You need to put a stop to what he is doing because this could make a lot of major problems for you.

jjwoodhull · Jan 18, 2009, 04:13 PM

Your post implies that your son lives with you. The first thing you should do is kick him out. At 23 he should be supporting himself. Especially if he is making your life difficult.

How does he have a relationship with your coworkers? Why would they believe what he tells them?

startover22 · Jan 18, 2009, 08:01 PM

AND, you may just be able to file a SLANDER suit against him.
If he lives with you, he needs to go. He is destructive to himself and to you.

N0help4u · Jan 18, 2009, 08:09 PM

Yep I would be saying to him and everybody loud and clear IF all these things were true then why doesn't he want to live in my house and it seems like it is definitely time for me to kick him out!

Fr_Chuck · Jan 18, 2009, 08:16 PM

And perhaps getting professional counseling to deal with all of those people destroying your life.

JudyKayTee · Feb 21, 2009, 12:05 PM

More info: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/corpor...?=#post1561987

gorgeouslady · Mar 10, 2009, 03:02 PM

Kick him out!! Son or no son he's destroying your life

JudyKayTee · Mar 10, 2009, 03:35 PM

Originally Posted by gorgeouslady

kick him out!!! son or no son he's destroying your life

Did you read the previous posts on the thread I posted?

gorgeouslady · Mar 11, 2009, 06:31 AM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Did you read the previous posts?

Yes, I did read the previous posts and even most readers suspect that her son is living with her to be able to do such things to her.so yes,I did read the OP and the rest of the answers above mine.even her story shows clearly that he still lives with her.

JudyKayTee · Mar 11, 2009, 06:38 AM

Originally Posted by gorgeouslady

yes, i did read the previous posts and even most readers suspect that her son is living with her to be able to do such things to her.so yes,i did read the OP and the rest of the answers above mine.even her story shows clearly that he still lives with her.

I'm not talking about the posts on this thread - I was talking about other posts on other threads - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/corpor...ml#post1561915

NeedKarma · Mar 11, 2009, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by gorgeouslady

yes, i did read the previous posts and even most readers suspect that her son is living with her to be able to do such things to her.so yes,i did read the OP and the rest of the answers above mine.even her story shows clearly that he still lives with her.

I think she means this: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/corpor...ed-320204.html

She rarely adds additional info in the threads she starts.

dontknownuthin · Mar 11, 2009, 02:36 PM

This is a very strange thing to do. I would suggest you try to get some help for your son but recognizing he is an adult, it may not be possible. Suing for slander and/or for an injunctio to stop him from speaking untruths about you might bring the issue to the court's attention and enable you to get an injunction preventing him from continuing to say these things. If they see that he has mental problems, they may also order him to get treatment. And doesn't anyone who knows you see the oddness of his behavior, and see from your reputation that these things could not be true? Is there more to this that you've not shared? Any drug or alcohol history or mental health history for either you or your son?

xoxaprilwine · Mar 11, 2009, 02:55 PM

As everyone already suggested, sit down and talk about it and the things people are saying that he said. Ask him if it was true and why he would try to hurt your reputation. Get to the bottom of what is going on with him, have there been any boyfriends in the past that have hurt him? There is definitely something going on with him... cause and reaction. He more then likely has some emotional/mental problems and needs to seek counseling... preferably family counseling so you can resolve your issues as well.

Does he live with you? Or does he live in the same town as you? I seem a bit confused by your post though everyone thinks your son lives with you. If he does, kick him out! He say's you don't do anything to help him and if you are in fact... STOP then maybe he will see you in a different light. If he lives in the town and not with you, but is getting information from the people you work with easily because your in a "small town" and everyone talks because everyone knows everyone then you should maybe bring this up with your colleagues and ask them what they have heard and that it is not true. Raising awareness. If you are not getting any progress by trying to mitigate it yourself then hell yah... I would slap a lawsuit in his face... that is of course if you have the financial ability to. Your son needs to grow up some time at 23 and maybe this will teach him that "in the real world" you can't do this and he is to take responsibility for his actions and words.

If you feel at a loss completely, please seek some help yourself and a "fresh start" never hurt anyone and may do you some good.

gorgeouslady · Mar 11, 2009, 10:50 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I'm not talking about the posts on this thread - I was talking about other posts on other threads - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/corpor...ml#post1561915

Oh thanks judykaytee,I didn't see her other posts.then it seems like the son is not to blame for all her problems.or maybe she even lying? :confused:i shoudn't have said what I said about throwing her son out.I take that back.

JudyKayTee · Mar 12, 2009, 05:57 AM

Originally Posted by gorgeouslady

oh thanks judykaytee,i didn't see her other posts.then it seems like the son is not to blame for all her problems.or maybe she even lying??:confused:i shoudn't have said what i said about throwing her son out.i take that back.

No need to take it back, no need at all. That was just a heads up. I think this person has some problems with reality, posts these "people are spying on me" statements, does not provide any additional info and vanishes. Maybe it's for the attention - ?

anisa2009 · Mar 12, 2009, 06:06 AM

It looks like your son is an attention seeker.. he wants people to feel sorry for him and maybe be his friend..

He's probably had an easy life (you doing everything for him) but he needs to stand on his own 2 feet and move out and have a life of his own...

For a 23 year old he doesn't seem like a responsible adult... it looks like to me that he's bored/unhappy with his life... and wants u to go through thAT 2

JudyKayTee · Mar 12, 2009, 06:12 AM

Originally Posted by anisa2009

it looks like your son is an attention seeker..he wants people to feel sorry for him and maybe be his friend..

He's probably had an easy life (you doing everything for him) but he needs to stand on his own 2 feet and move out and have a life of his own...

For a 23 year old he doesnt seem like a responsible adult...it looks like to me that hes bored/unhappy with his life...and wants u to go through thAT 2

Do you actually read through the thread before you post?

MicroMama · Mar 12, 2009, 10:00 AM

Provided that you're not lying and really believe this is happening, please seek help from a professional. Based on previous posts, it sounds possible that you may need help for a medical / mental health problem.

Good luck.

dontknownuthin · Mar 12, 2009, 03:58 PM

I'm thinking the same. Not to find fault with you but your story does not sound like it's grounded in reality, and if you truly believe it is all true, you need to consider whether perhaps you are having some health issues that can be addressed. You sound like you're having some issues with paranoia and your son may be trying to get you help.