She used to like me

2carragher3 · Jan 10, 2009, 05:31 PM

Last year during the summer I was meeting up with this girl who was my best mate. I really liked but I was stupid enough not to ask her out, out of fear that she didn't like me. Now I look back it was so obvious that she did.

We are still friends now but not as good as we were and she acts as if hostile towards me. However I do have a feeling that she still likes me slightly.

Getting onto the point, I'm not sure if I should ask her about why we are not as good friends as we are. Obviously I would do it subtely and not just ask her why she doesn't like me anymore.

So really the question is: should I confront her over our friendship?

ja77 · Jan 10, 2009, 05:38 PM

Yes you need to ask her because you will never know if you never ask.

2carragher3 · Jan 11, 2009, 08:30 AM

Originally Posted by ja77

Yes you need to ask her because you will never know if you never ask.

Its just the difficulty of asking her n possibly pushing her even further away

Forever2b · Jan 12, 2009, 08:42 PM

Wow, this happened to me.. basically the same story... but I'm on the girls point of view... it really gets me sad that were not friends anymore... so yeah id definatley say go for it and try your hardest to make the friendship work, even if with time you realize its only going to be a friendship, you don't want to lose your best mate

ATR08 · Jan 13, 2009, 12:23 AM

If you two really are or were that close you have got to ask. I lost my best friend for a long time because of a situation like that and it was a huge mistake.

MarMar27 · Jan 13, 2009, 12:37 AM

I actually been in the same situation

Real close friends with this guy for about 7 years, he opened up to me I caught feelings for him, and now its screwed up our whole friendship, just be careful, make a wise decision, But I agree you will never know if You don't ask.

2carragher3 · Jan 13, 2009, 01:46 PM

One problem is though is how I ask her
Over text, msn, email, Facebook etc is awkward as she can ignore me
So what I'm getting at is what would be the best way to ask her

kctiger · Jan 13, 2009, 01:57 PM

You be a man and ask her in person. The technology now days has made us dudes completely lose formality and all sense of being gentlemen at times...

Ask her face to face...

chrissymarie · Jan 13, 2009, 04:22 PM

Why would you confront her about your friendship if ultimately that is not what you truly want?

Get to the point and ask her if she's interested in you...

Reicheru-006 · Jan 14, 2009, 05:46 AM

Sounds like she's still hung up on this a little. Did you ask her out and then decide to be friends again? I think that's what your saying, so if that's the case then give her some time. Maybe she's just scared to get close to you again and give you the wrong message. Or she does like you but is afraid of getting hurt so she doesn't show it.

2carragher3 · Jan 14, 2009, 10:55 AM

Originally Posted by Reicheru-006

sounds like she's still hung up on this a little. did u ask her out and then decide to b friends again? i think thats what ur saying, so if thats the case then give her some time. maybe she's just scared to get close to you again and give you the wrong message. or she does like you but is afraid of getting hurt so she doesnt show it.

No I never asked her out stupidly. Wot I mean is that we weren't as good friends as we wer

Reicheru-006 · Jan 15, 2009, 01:40 PM

OK I get it now. Yeah she probably still likes you but is moving on right now or trying to. Hurry your up and ask her strait up how she feels about you because if you wait any longer, she'll get over you and miss your chance to having a potential (sp?) girlfriend. If she's as great as you say, your really missing out if you keep waiting.

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