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ss_aa_rr_aa · Jan 9, 2009, 08:14 PM

Hi.. I need some help.. lately I had been bothering my boyfriend.. myself.. and so much myself.. I don't sleep at night I cry as much as I can over stupid things that doesn't even exist and for example when I talk to my boyfriend I tell him stuff when ever he tells me I think it's a lie or a joke just to keep me on his life or no lose me over stupid period time of my life.. I think a lot.. I dream more than I live and when I look around I see no dreams come true so I get so angry.. like my boyfriend me and him and so in love but we are too young to get married or do any commitment but I dream of getting married so much that when I actually look around and see that I am still not married I get so angry specially on my boyfriend.. like it's his fault that I am still single! Which I am not but I need to know why lately I am having these feelings and those dreams that doesn't exist or I shouldn't be having them because in my country I am too young to get engaged now and I am 20. Anyway.. please help me I want to get over those dreams or those feelings.. during the last 15 days I had 2 big fights with my boy friend and I think I am about to lose him.. specially we have been in love for 4 years. So losing him is NEVER one of my goals. But my behaviors shows the opposite of that! What can I do?? :(

Lialinn · Jan 10, 2009, 12:46 AM

Lady, there is nothing wrong with dreaming to be married for a 20 year-old girl:)
The thing is you have to be patient... dream about it as much as you need, that will nourish your well being... dreams take time to come true.and time will decide what you will do with your boyfriend.
If you badly want to be married, you can communicate it with him, just to know his future intentions. But, listen carefully, if he shows no interest to be with you in the future, you will have to be very strong, and change the pic of the guy in your dreams.
Guys do not like to be pushed. Pressure makes them run away... be very calm and normal , and make small point of your dreams in some of your conversations without stressing much on them.(like when your eating cake tell him"i like my wedding cake to be blue")
About the angry part, that's where your mind is fighting your heart. Sometimes you think something is perfect but deep inside you see that there are flaws in it and if you feel you are not able tp fix them you have reactions.at the age oof 20, a lady, specially in the twentieth century needs emotional security. You have everything you need, you are reaasdy for a change, but that takes two persons to make love last. Each of you should give his share of 50%. If you give more to accelerate things, yyou will suffer.
Take care:)

MarkwithaK · Jan 10, 2009, 01:08 AM

I stopped reading about half-way through this. You need to get out of your own head! Stop thinking so much.

ss_aa_rr_aa · Jan 10, 2009, 10:58 PM

Thank you guys for the answers.. I feel better now.. maybe I should stop thinking too much.. or dreaming about things that can't happened now is worthless.. in my country it's different.. it's not like I can get married when ever I want.. and my parents have to decision if I should marry the guy who will come with his parents to my house so it's an issue.. and me and my boyfriend are happy now.. I want more.. on this I can't disagree.. but maybe thinking about marriage is not good for me now.. but dreaming about shouldn't be an issue.. thanks anyway :)