[happydappy]

I've been dating a guy for 2 months. We really like each other. There's a lot of intamacy and affection in and out of public. During casual conversation, he mentions things like, "i can see you being a really great mom one day."
Another conversation, "i can't wait to have kids." These questions don't come out of the blue, they relate to the topics we talk about. By the way he has was divorced a few years ago. He's in his early 30s. Anyhow, he is leaving to another city soon for work, and told me that it is definite, but to not be a stranger. I am not sure how to take that comment. I really like him, but I can't muster the courage to explain to him that I want to continue seeing him for fear that I will be hurt. Anyhow, after a heat in the moment, we laid together. He asked if I wanted to talk. I said, what do you want to talk about? (innocently). He said I'm just asking if you want to talk, (there was no indication that I wanted to). Later on, he said in that affectionate tone of voice, "what am I going to do with you." and then he also paused and told me that he had a really great time on the date.

How should I perceive all of this? Does it seem like he wants to continue something long-distance? Is he too scared to tell me himself and wants me to bring it up? I need a man's opinion! BTW, I did say that I am bummed that he's leaving because we just met each other.

[JBeaucaire]

Us guys don't usually have a lot of depth behind what we say. When we say something, it means (at best) only what we said. "Reading" into it, which is normal for a woman, is often a wasted exercise since it means what he said.

I'm just saying you WANT there to be more here than there is. He likes you, you like him, but you've only been dating 2 months meaning the "honeymoon" is still going on so you have to be careful about making any life-changing decisions based on anything that's happened so far.

Having sex is you playing with fire. Sex isn't a recreational event, believe it or not, and it not only can lead to unwanted misery (you know that), it also makes being a GOOD judge of what's going on with you two even more difficult. Perhaps impossible.

Don't read this as judgmental, read it as cautionary. He fun. He's cute. He's moving. You REALLY need to stop pursuing this like it's a game only, it's your life.

So to find out if you are compatible with him in a "let's have kids" way means you need to ACTIVELY date, face-to-face, for another 12-24 months. Since he's moving, how are you going to do that? You going to move?

You can move, too. And doing so doesn't even have to mean you're acting crazy. Your life is worth taking some risks for. But if you move, you move nearby and continue your separate but dating lives. You don't move IN. That's just more silliness making an honest courtship impossible.

If you decide you won't/can't move and he DOES, then it's pretty much a long-distance friendship after that. Don't put your life on hold, especially your dating life, for a relationship that's gone into hiatus.

Keep it real. Keep it calm. Keep it honest and non-needy. And don't bother looking for "layers" to what he says, he only meant it as a compliment. That should be good enough.

[N0help4u]

Sounds like he was making it sound like he was really interested in you but now that he is moving he is talking like he is moving on.
I would come out and tell him that you are interested in a relationship that is going somewhere but with a comment like don't be a stranger makes you feel like he wanted nothing more than a casual date. Then tell him that he can be the one to call you if and when he wants.
Put it back on him to tell you where things stand.