[some-guy]

What's it mean when a girl breaks up with you but keeps saying she loves you she just needs her space but when I give it to her she can't go a day without calling texting or coming to see me its so hard to know what to do

[ylaira]

She wants to break up with you but can't bear the process because she has yet nowhere to go. She loves the attention from you but not you. When a "better" guy comes around, expect the expected.

[belindatate84]

I really don't believe that as soon as another guy comes along she will be fine as said in the other answer.

This happened to me,
We broke up and I was the one that wanted space.. its probably something she did just to remind herself of how important you really are in her life.

Sometimes she may have felt as though maybe she didn't need you so she decided to take some space and figure out what she wants, then she has realised that all she ever did really want was you.

Talk to her about it and ask her if she is really sure about the space, or if she wants to try at the relationship again.. if you can fix it, fix it now before its too late. I tried to fix mine but I can't :(

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[JBeaucaire]

Sorry Belinda, I have to disagree.

If YOU break up with someone and change your mind, MAYBE. But if someone breaks up with YOU, hanging around hoping is just hanging around wasting time.

It's typical and common behavior for the DUMPEE, but it's still a waste of time.

The girl has made the head choice that she doesn't see the two of you as "til death do us part"... it's going to take her heart (and yours) longer to accept her head's decision. But it still has to happen.

Unfortunately, if you read enough stories here on the forum, you will realize that this behavior of "sort of breaking up but not breaking away" leads to months/years of unnecessary lingering despair.

Your choice if you go through that, too. You COULD opt to skip all that, but you'd have to be strong enough for both of you to go full No Contact.

[pancake5]

What's it mean when a girl breaks up with you but keeps saying she loves you she just needs her space but when I give it to her she can't go a day without calling texting or coming to see me its so hard to know what to do

Give her her space and act as though you don't care... your busy arnt you lol show her your not waiting for her and she may wake up...

[Jake2008]

You are like a comfortable pair of one's second pair of favourite shoes. When the first pair are in for repair, you'll do quite nicely. Best to keep them and not throw them away, because you never know when a backup pair of comfortable shoes will come in handy to walk in. Or in your case, walk all over.

This isn't about her and her choices and expectations (you are the second pair of shoes), this is about your inability to see that you too have choices.

You do not need to be anybody's second choice. To allow yourself to keep hanging on, hoping that the obvious messages she sends you, will eventually have different meaning, and everything will be okay.

Think more about why you would allow yourself to accept someone dictating your life to you. Think about why you would accept this on-again, off-again, mixed message garbage she is feeding you. Think about what she is doing wrong, and why her actions are not that of a mature person able to either make a comittment, or break off a relationship. Why does she need to have you hanging on until she makes up her mind, and why do you allow it, knowing that if somebody better comes along, you will be tossed into the back of the closet.

Her needs are being met here. Your needs are not. She is playing with your feelings and emotionally contributing to your confusion. You are being played.

You can choose to follow her directions, and continue to try to figure out what she wants, and how she wants it, until the cows come home. OR, you can decide that nobody can treat you the way she is, and YOU can end your own suffering by making your own choices here!

What she is doing to you, you are allowing. Ask yourself why you would allow yourself to be in this position. Make some choices, set some basic standards, end this non-relationship, don't let yourself be used, and move on!

It isn't up to her what you decide to do. It is only and completely up to you.

My advice to you is to end it, and move on.