[venusa228]

My son is 22 and lives on the street. His hystory is Diagnosed with Hypothyroidism and ADHD disorder at age 9. He was on meds for ADHD and always has to take medication for the Hypo but now does not have insurance. I pay for the hypo meds but can't take on anything else. He refuses to do anything any other way but his own. He has been in the "process" of getting his GED for 5 years now and is still no closer. That is what he says is stopping him from getting a job, he is working on his GED. In the meantime he has a 3 year old and a 1.5 year old. He does nothing to support them because he has no job. He also has the problem of stealing, using drugs and alcohol, anger outbursts and he always blames someone else for what has gone wrong. He loses friends very quickly because he steals from them and lies. Even his longtime school chums that thought he would never do stuff to them were sorely disappointed and have cut him out. His lies are not believable at all but yet he continues to tell them. HIs father was never in the picture and he used to steal stuff from school at a very young age.

My problem is I have kicked him out and he found someone else to sponge off. I have gone through years of his abuse, stealing from me his mother, the lies and its always someone else's fault. SO, I kicked him out 6months ago. Now the people who he moved in with have also kicked him out because their rent came up missing. Basically where ever he is something will get stolen. He then has been living in abandoned buildings, and sleeping in friends cars. I finally told him he could come and spend the night so he could bathe at least. He promised he would look for a job and did get up early to do that. I am just not confident that he is filling out the applications correctly cause he never gets phone calls for jobs. So, who is going to hire someone with no work experience that's age 22. Also I have to literally lock stuff up like movies and anything hock able cause he will sell it. I lost an entire DVD collection that way. He does drink and do illegal drugs. I am just not sure what to do, I really don't want to help him because of his attitude.



Anyway frustrated.

[N0help4u]

At his age he needs to learn for himself.
If enough people give up helping him maybe he will see that stealing is only biting the hand that helps him.
He needs tough love not enablers. I know you mean well but it will only delay his seeking help.

[venusa228]

At his age he needs to learn for himself.
If enough people give up helping him maybe he will see that stealing is only biting the hand that helps him.
He needs tough love not enablers. I know you mean well but it will only delay his seeking help.

I totally understand what your saying but now I wonder if he needs mental help. Eatting out of a dumpster, is that not a mental health issue? He gets food stamps but they never last. Do you have children? Remember I have given him the boot and don't help him really. I give no money, I buy meds cause without them he can go into a coma within a week. Anyway I appreciate your opinion.

[N0help4u]

I am sure he does need mental help
BUT
You have already tried helping him and got no where.

You really can't make him do anything he is not willing to do himself
You can't make him get a job
You can't make him take his meds
You can't make him go get mental help
You can't make him stop stealing from you or doing you wrong

If you try and help him all you are going to get is what his history has already been.

If you let him stay with you and he doesn't want to leave you may have to go through formally evicting him because by law you can't just kick him out. So if he realizes you can't just kick him out he can sue you.

[N0help4u]

Timed out and went through twice