[Nevaeh26]

~ Ok once again I am rambling on and I am more venting then anything, but if you can make out any of this and think that your opion might help please do say so! Ok well were to start, well I think that I honestly hate my fiancé and I know that is a afull thing to say but I can't help it! WE have been together for god know how long, too long... since I was 13 and I am now 20. He is 22 , we have know each other since we were two and now we have a beautidul baby girl who will be three in Feb. And I can't believe it took me this long to figure out that I hate him, he acts like a child, is ignorant and has no respect for others, he has an anger problem and I could probably name many more problems he has but move on... So latley for the last 2 years our relationship has been hell! But yet I can't seem to leave and thins time I think that I might.. So we were fighting at least 3-4 times a week up unitl a couple of months ago when I just stopped carring and started to just prentend everything was OK and go with what ever he was saying, but I don't know what else to do , and I can't keep doing this! I am going to go crazy. Right now he is not work and has no amibition to go get another job, has dose not get unemployment because he voentary quit his last job, so he basically lives off me! And yet he thinks it is a good time to have another kid, and he thinks it is a good time to get married. However, I have finally got my feet on the ground, and finished my Bacholors degree in Nursing and got a great job. I have been looking at houses that I could buy in my price range and ready to move on with my life. Another thing is that his credit is so bad I am talking like a 380 credit score, and mine is like a 790 so I am scared that if I ever worn to marry him mine would go down. I have worked hard for everything that I own and I don't want to lose it. As for him wanting another kid, I think that he is out of his mind, I think my daughter is enough for me and honestly at this point in my life I odn't want any more kids, I want to do my job contiue in school and be able to give my daughter everything that she may want or need. I think that he know that I am on the veurge of leaving him and that he thinks if we have another baby that I won't. Plus why would I want to have another kid with him when he acts like a kid himself, So all day while I am at work he dos nothing but watch TV and make a mess, he will do his laundry but not mine or my daughters, then when I get home I have to clean the house make dinner and take my daughter to gymnastics, or swimming, It seems like I have to children and the younger one listens a whole lot better, He used to be some what abusive with words and spiting and throwing things, up until a couple of months ago when I told him that I had had enough and that I was going to leave him for good if he didn't straighten up , so he has gotten better with that but then tonight we started to fight because he was rubbing my shoulders and we were talking about him wanting another baby and me not and him wanting to get married and me not... when the conversation got worse and he started to press to hard and hurt me and wouldn't stop.. so I got up and went up stairs, My daughter was playing in her toy room and asked me to get her more milk in her cuppy, I simply asked him to do that while I picked up some of her toys and got her PJ's on, he said no and then threw that cuppy at me, which was completely un called for, but I ignored it with out a coment and did it myself, after getting my daughter situated in bed, I jumped into the shower and the next think I know he had came in the batheroom and opened up both windows all the way... keep in mind that it was 22%f ! It was frezzing, I asked to close it and he began callig me names , so once again I did it myself, when I got out of the shower he had left in my brand new car and took my cell phone with him, and has yet to return.. it has been 4 hours I have no clue where he is , he has no money? But at this point I am scared that I am going to kill him when he gets home, he is driving me crazy I don't believe that I am aasking too much from him or anything, I can't help it if I don't want anymore kids or want to get married! Do you think that I am being to honest? I mean what should I do?

[Nevaeh26]

---OK I just want to add more to my post, haha the more I think about it the more I have to say , I mean I have worked so hard to get were I am at and he dose nothing but put me down, I mean about the whole buying a house thing he wants me to out his name on it when I buy one and I refuse to because he did nothing to help me get to this point I mean yea he worked while I was in school but so did I. And now he thinks that he doesn't have to because I am making more now than both our incomes combined before I finished school. I think that he thinks if we get married that he will have rights to the house I buy and I don't know if he will or not but I am not trying to find out, and another thing he is so controlling, he watches my ever move, he goes threw my phone and checks my recent calls, text messages, ext. every day , he gets on me email, myspace, and Facebook and reads everything, he doesn't like me going out with out him, so when I do he somehow shows up to were ever I am and starts problems and the he calls me a whoe and a slut when I have done nothing just because my friends a single and possible looking for a guy doesn't mean that I am , I mean quiet frankly if I leave him I don't know if I want any man for the time being, not to be mean but I think that they are all crazy! Another thing is that he has been diagnost with bi-polar and anger management problems but refusses to take meds. For it, he doesn't want to go to cousling , it seems like he don't really care. Oh yea and I let one of his friends move into one of the extra bedrooms in our house under the conditions that he pay something towards rent and food and all, and that it would only be for about a month, well it has been 4 months now and I have yet to receive a dollar from him. He brings girls over when I am not home and the too of them do nothing but my wii and xbox all day, but yet if I yell at him for having 3 or 4 girls in the house when I am not home and they are drinking, I am in the wrong, I don't understand I can't go out with my girlfriends, or gay friends (not to offend anyone) but he can have girls in my house and get drunk with them and that is OK. Well I don't think so... yea I get mad about it and yell about but I certinly don't call names or through things . I mean that is not going to solve anything. I don't know I think that I just need to move on because he needs to grow up and stop acting like a child, most the time I just wish that he would find some else too much off and go be with them. It would make my life so much easyer... although I have never really been with out him and I don't know really know what to do... or how it will be , I guess I am just a little scared.. I don't know...

[ISneezeFunny]

I'm sorry. I keep trying to read your post, but my eyes are getting confused. Could you possibly put paragraphs? I'll continue to read, and post.

[expat2009]

This is the classic tale of a guy who will continue to make your life a living hell if you don't leave him ASAP. Having a little girl your situation is quite complicated, but the fact that you are not married makes it a bit easier. You need help and if he's being violent you MUST seek help --legal if possible-- to make him stop before it gets worse. Neither you nor your little girl need this crap in your lives. Your baby is worth too much for that. Don't leave walking.. RUN!

[zeeniee]

Do you have anywhere you can go to - like your family ? I think you should till he returns and the situation cools down. Then I think you should have that chat and ask for space and leave him- he is not being nice to you and all this will affect your child - she can see all this and will pick up the unpleasant vibes around her. Do what is right for you and your child. LEAVE ASAP.

[talaniman]

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Yo have so many posts about the same subject and I had to read them all, to get a clear picture. Hey I understand when things are over, but You rally need to be honest and make a move away from him and also be honest with yourself. Just go!