[mik2007]

Okay this is my problem.. hope you all can help me! I have known this girl for a few months now and in the midst of my previous ended relationship she has helped me through it and in that time I have developed feelings for her but haven't told her because I was still getting over the previous girlfriend. She broke up with her ex at about the same time as me so she knows what I was going through and that's why we clicked so good. Since then I have got over my ex and am looking for someone new and really have feelings for her. She has told me that she is not sure when she will be ready to jump back into dating but in the few times we have hung out she gives me the impression that she is interested. She has had a lot of stress these last couple months with family members passing away so she she has been dealing with that and I have been trying to be there for her as she was for me. On new years she spent it at home and I told her that I was willing to drive over and spend it with her but the roads were unsafe to drive on so she spent it alone which was a bummer. I text her that night and asked her if I could take her out for dinner sometime and she text back saying that she would really like to, but she was kind of drunk when she text me and I have talked to her since then and she never mentioned it so maybe she forgot that I asked her. I always try to be there for her when she needs someone and she always tells me that I am always so nice to her. We have hung out only a few times because she is busy with work but we talk a lot on msn or the phone.

My question is... how can I show her that I have feelings for her and ask her out. I am unsure that she is wanted to get back into dating but there are signs that she likes me. Even though I don't see her a lot how can I do this without scaring her or pushing me into the friend zone cause I don't want to fall into that but maybe I am too late... please help!

[JBeaucaire]

Stop thinking this over. You're wasting time.

Ask her out to a specific event on a specific day that starts at a specific time and ends 3 hours later. Pick something safe, fun, and known... like a concert or a dance.

Public and safe.

When you ask, let it sound special without sounding needy. "I've got two tickets to the Niel Diamond concert next Friday and I thought you might really enjoy going...would you go with me?"

If she turns you down, the world hasn't ended. Keep plugging along with safe invitations to safe events until she either accepts one or asks you to stop asking her out. You'll be fine with either result.