[pissedoffmom]

Okay... basically, my son is 19 months old. His dad has only seen him a handful of times for a few minutes here and there. He has never given any childsupport. He has never has a relationship with my son, only with me and the only reason he ever saw him was so he could see me. He however has not seen him at all in 3 or 4 months nor had any type of communication with me during that time. Now I am being served with papers. I feel like he is only doing it out of anger toward me because I am no longer dating him. My son doesn't even know who this guy is. He has a crazy family, his dad has even physically attacked me! Is there anything I can do to prevent him from seeing my son? How long is it before I could file abandonment? And is there a law about over night stays before a certain age?

[N0help4u]

You will have to leave it up to the Judge. Tell the Judge your concerns and ask that he get nothing more than supervised visits for now.
Also tell the father that it is important to you that he either be a part of his life or he doesn't even bother because it is not good for him to have the instability and emotional hurts of a dad that only wants to be there at his convenience.

[Fr_Chuck]

You needed to file for custody and get visits set 19 month ago.

Also do you have a child support order in place though the courts.

Yes he will get visits, the best you can do is try and make them supervised by a court approved locatoin at first but down the road after they approve his visits he will get unsupervised and over night visits.

You will have to prove HE is a threat to the child to keep it at supervised.

[stephmed25]

Parenting time rights are not interdependent with the obligation to pay child support. Consequently, failure to pay child support ordered by the court is no defense to a denial of parenting time.

I've been and still going through the same thing you are... My son is now 5 and his father has not seen him for 2 years and now wants contact again.. he has been in and out his life wich I think is not healthy for the kid but in family court.. The judges view will be that your child father wants to have a relationship and the judge will not deny that even if its supervised.. It was very hard for me my x had taken me to court for visitation right when my son was only 2 and boy was I hurt when judge granted him visitation rights every Wednesday and overnight every other weekend... I had no choice I didn't even have the right to know where my son was going to reside on the weekends.. I had told the judge that he was not stabled and the judge looked at my x and asked him if he had a place to sleep and he said yes and that was it... He did had to go through anger management because he was abusive with me when we were together and social services did go where he stayed to make sure everything was healthy for the kid.. so yes it was very hard I cried and did not sleep when he was not with me there's nothing like the love of a child and not knowing if he's sleeping well... I really wish u the best of luck

[stephmed25]

And yes file for child support if u haven't already and file for custody