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JackBurton · Jan 1, 2009, 01:48 AM

I want her to know how she has made me feel for the rest of her life.

clhend · Jan 1, 2009, 07:06 AM

Oh grow up! Believe me you will get over it. In a few weeks you'll barely be able to remember what she looked like. The worst thing you can do it obsess over an ex. The best way to win is to get on with your life, improve your circumstances, become a person who will be able to look back and say "I'm so glad things worked out like they did!"

You being the best you can be, making something of yourself will be the best revenge.

Starbucks21 · Jan 1, 2009, 09:06 AM

Easy there Jack... I know it hurts. But doing that will just make it worse. You'll have the cops on you're butt... you'll have life in prison...

And I don't know how old you are but just think of it this way. If you spend a few weeks getting over her and then finding a new wonderful girl and with time (meaning years because shotgun weddings aren't really a good idea) marry that girl... having a wonderful life with this girl... and you run into her... wouldn't that be better revenge

Be a wonderful ex so she always doubts herself for any pain she caused you and live a wonderful life

Homegirl 50 · Jan 1, 2009, 09:48 AM

No one can make you feel bad without your permission.
You can get over this girl if you choose to, which means stop obsessing.
The best revenge is to live well and be happy.

JackBurton · Jan 1, 2009, 10:55 AM

She wouldn't be doing it to herself. I would be the receiver. Get it.

ja77 · Jan 1, 2009, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by JackBurton

She wouldn't be doing it to herself. I would be the receiver. Get it.

I'm guessing you have either had a very bad break up with your girlfriend or you are a internet TROLL.

If you are for real then you need to pull yourself together, breaking up is hard - but you need to learn to take each day as it comes and move on with your own life -

Hang out with friends, take up hobbies do things you want and keep living.

Homegirl 50 · Jan 1, 2009, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by JackBurton

She wouldn't be doing it to herself. I would be the receiver. Get it.

Yeah, I get it, but did you get my answer? You will be the loser here, not her. If you are wanting to do all of this, you have a larger problem, not one that she made. Get yourself some help and live well.

Starbucks21 · Jan 1, 2009, 11:07 AM

Suicide isn't the answer. It's never the answer. Would you want to hurt your friends and family? And everyone else that cares about you?

You're a strong guy and you know you deserve better. You can get through it and will be better for it.

ja77 · Jan 1, 2009, 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Yeah, I get it, but did you get my answer? You will be the loser here, not her. If you are wanting to do all of this, you have a larger problem, not one that she made. Get yourself some help and live well.

I agree you really need to seek help if you are feeling this way, talk to close family or friends or someone that you know you can really trust to be open with.

asking · Jan 1, 2009, 11:09 AM

You definitely need help, Jack.

Leave your ex alone. She is not the problem you have.

JudyKayTee · Jan 1, 2009, 12:15 PM

Originally Posted by JackBurton

I want her to know how she has made me feel for the rest of her life.

You're 29 years old and this has been going on since February 2008, 12 months?

If the only way to get her back is to threaten to kill yourself, you need to speak to a professional. And if she hears of this I'd give up all hope she'll ever be back - first argument, boom! No woman who is stable wants to be with someone who is not.

v1033 · Jan 1, 2009, 12:50 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

No woman who is stable wants to be with someone who is not.

Who says you want a stable woman! My unstable husband loves my unstable self! :-)

Breakups hurt a lot but the best revenge is to be happier without her than she is without you.
When she realises what she has lost she might come running back but she'll never realise that while you are making yourself available to her. If you hassle her you're just proving to her that she was right to end things.

Reconciliations do sometimes happen but not if you force them. My husband was my ex for a while (the worst period of my life) but things often work out for the best.

And don't forget suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

X

JudyKayTee · Jan 1, 2009, 02:09 PM

Originally Posted by v1033

Who says you want a stable woman! My unstable husband loves my unstable self! :-)

Good to know there's a cover for every pot and that women want to get involved with suicidal men.

N0help4u · Jan 1, 2009, 02:56 PM

Most often when I see people tell other people what misery they have caused them the person doesn't give a R@T$ @$$.
Get over it and get on with your life. She will not see it as HER problem. She may even think 'What a loser' and be even more glad she is out of the picture.

Alty · Jan 1, 2009, 03:01 PM

I agree with everyone else.

You're probably young, breakups happen to all of us, it's part of life. I know it's hard, it hurts, it sucks, and you think that you'll never get over it, but, with time, you will.

Talk to someone about this, heck, talk to us. There are some great threads started here for this very purpose, dealing with a breakup.

I know that you don't believe it now, but you will survive this, you will get over her, and, if you allow yourself to heal, you'll find someone else.

Good luck.

JackBurton · Jan 2, 2009, 04:33 PM

She doesn't know this. Nobody does. Part of me feels that I am a good person and that she doesn't deserve to have me in her life but its just taking a bit to convince myself at the moment. I don't I want her back in my life anyway. She had something and she shat on it. I would never have done that. Her loss, not mine. I'm better than that. Hopefully this "new" year will bring a positive change in my life. And as far as getting help, I've seen shrinks and all they tell me are things I already know. It's a waste of money.

Thanks

asking · Jan 2, 2009, 04:43 PM

Sometimes shrinks can tell you something useful. But more often it's what you tell them that matters. The important thing is to want to make a happier life and to figure out how to do that. Talking out loud to a real person usually works better than just thinking in circles inside your own head. Knowing a real person is listening forces us to admit the things we do that are irrational or self defeatist, for example. Everybody does these things. I'm not pointing specifically at you. But if you are unhappy think about the things that make you happy and put more of that in your life.

Good luck!

Homegirl 50 · Jan 2, 2009, 04:48 PM

Then she is not your problem. She may have contributed to it but is sounds like you were having them anyway.
You are the one in control of your life. You are a good person regardless of what she thinks or has done.
Get past this and move on.

artlady · Jan 2, 2009, 05:07 PM

So much pain and so much hate inside of you right now but stop and think about what you want to do.

No matter how badly you hurt right now ,believe me ,given time and distance it will get better.

You are a child of God and your parents and there must be some people who love you and would be devastated by what you are thinking.

What did she do to you that is worth losing your life over and destroying hers?

Like someone else mentioned .the best revenge is so live well.

Please rethink this and know that so many of us have felt this way but I promise you that if you allow it the healing can begin.

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