[Lindi09]

to whom it may concern:

my name is lindi swart and and i am married to jurie swart and 34 year old man. We have an almost 2 year old and currently living with the in laws.

my situation is that my husband will do any thing fot his family and even more for his sister. I am so tired of being married to the whole family. And his sister is the worst one of them all. Seeing that she expect of him to jump each time she says jump. And when ever we want to go for a drive my husband will ask his sister if she doesn't want to came with. The reason for that is that she doesn't have a boyfriend to take her out so now all of a sudden it has became my problem. She was in a relationship, but the gay broke it of like 5 years ago because of the fact she doesn't like working and expect the guy to support her in all financial assest. So now she doesn't want a nother guy because she is still waiting on that guy, but he wants nothing to do with her. So my husband must even go fetch her at work because she doesn't have transport, but I had to join an lift clud seeing that I had to find my one way. I have to walk in the rain with our daughter,but he will go and fetch her from work. And when I tell him that I don't like this seeing that I his wife and child must find my own way, but he will go out of his way for her. We had previously broken up and was on the verch of getting an divorce. We spilt up in May and the divorce was supposed to go through on the 23 September and we got bak together on the 8 September 2008. So we are still in the process of fixing our marriage. So can you supply me with advise.



regards,
lindi swart

[21boat]

How's that fixing your marriage when you walk in the rain. If it were me I would keep walking and not look back. No more drama Child is now in a peaceful place.

[N0help4u]

I agree if he can not see what he is doing to his wife and daughter then he deserves nothing more than his sister and parents. You are not fixing anything; you are allowing yourself to be a doormat at your daughters expense.