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jacdavmic · Dec 28, 2008, 07:58 PM

I met a sweet woman 2 years ago. We hit it off very well for the first 6 months and then her ex. Got nvolved with her life. He tried to separate us apart by doing bad things. I won't go into details, but a lot of it involves the police. My life and hers, have been torn upside down. Since her children (one is 9 the other is 14yrs)are involved, he has done much to turn her kids from me. This makes her hesitate to do anything with me. I promised her I would help her financially and emotionally through it all, and she has been appreciative of that. She is of indian discent and claims also that her family is very traditional and that is why she won't involve me with her family, although her mother and sister seem to like me. Her ex claims that I am the one separating the kids from him and her but that is farthest from the truth. My relationship was on and off with her until about 6 months ago when we talked everyday. The only problem is that she won't see me brecause she doesn't want to be labeled as the bad parent and also because Child Services is involved due to her ex spreading accusations about me. I have bought a ring for this woman and have told her numerous times that when she is ready I will marry her. She agreed and seems happy about that however, its been quite awhile since we truly have spent time together. What should I do? I love this woman greatly, but I am having serious doubts weither she will pull out of her depression and anxiety over what has gone on. I promised her I wouldn't abandon her but I don't know how much heart break I can take anymore. Please help.

J_Nannen · Dec 28, 2008, 08:02 PM

If you think it's worth it, I'd keep at it. The way it sounds, in your shoes, I'd let it go.

A person can't take that. And she should know that. Use your best judgement. You have to look out for yourself too, you know.

talaniman · Dec 28, 2008, 10:31 PM

If your in America, this drama plays out in court, but if she cannot involve you with her family, that's a real red flag, and maybe you should back off, and get a clearer picture here.

At least work on a timetable, with clear goals for the future, because why should you put your life on hold, and she pushes your love, and support away? Doesn't add up to me.