[roxy422505]

So my ex boyfriend and I were together for over 3 years, for the last 6 months we started fighting about everyhting, even the little things, things got kind of unbearable for both of us but we kept coming back together and there was love for sure.
3 months ago he breaks up with me after a stupid fight and I realized I couldn't live breaking up and going back together every time we got into a fight so I decided that was it I had to get some time off to figure what to do, so I didn't take his calls. A week after I heard from a friend from work that he had been calling her and asking her out, he called her my princess and all that kind of stuff that lets you know that he definitelly wanted something else out of that girl, thankfully that girl came straight to me and told me everything so he didn't get his way with her. When I heard that I just freaked out, that same day he found out that I knew, since then I swor to myself I wasn't going to get back with him cause I was never going to be able to trust him, I mean he tried to hook up with a friend, there should be a code for that or something.
So when he found out that I knew he apologized, cried, ask for me to get back with him and all the stuff men does after messing up.
After a while and all the rejection he kind of stopped begging or apologizing, he stills calls from time to time but just to see how I'm doing and I just shot him off ( I just feel like I have to cut all ties if I want to get over him) but for a couple of days I ve been having the feeling that he's with someone else and two days ago I confronted him and he accepted it, it just crashed my world one more time, he said that she's someone who "entertains" him and that he can't be alone, and that he loves me and If I let him know that there's even a small chance for us to get back together he will dump her and be alone just to wait for me.
I don't believe him anymore, I also think that If I can't trust someone there's no point on being together, but I love him, and miss him, and this news just messed up my world, I was doing better but now Im back hurting badly, what should I think? Or do?

[Justwantfair]

Stick to no contact. Of course you are feeling worse now, you were on a road to recovery and took huge steps backwards knowing his current situation.

This relationship wasn't healthy which is why you have broken up and just because he is moving on and you are hurt that he is moving on too quickly, that doesn't make the relationship any more healthy then it was and you were content moving on, don't take him back because he hurt your feelings.

You already had your answer in the question. You don't trust him and you were moving on, just have to start again with the healing process since you cut your wound open again.

[kctiger]

You wouldn't care about this if you had another boyfriend would you? This seems more like jealousy than anything, as he seems way too dependent on someone else for happiness. I think you should continue living your life. People do not constantly break up if they are meant to be together. This clearly was a disfunctional relationship and it just wasn't working. Of course it hurts to learn he has someone new, that is just human emotions, but keep yourself busy and build a life you love, and trust me, you soon won't care what he does. No trust = no relationship.

[DoulaLC]

You've answered the question yourself... you don't believe him anymore and you don't trust him, so take this opportunity to cut your losses once and for all. Don't put yourself in a situation where he can cause you anymore pain.

It hurts now, that is to be expected, but in time you will realize what you have been given... the chance to meet someone who doesn't make you wonder, doesn't abuse your trust, and doesn't need to be "entertained" by someone else while waiting for you... how sad for this other girl as well.

[talaniman]

Two words for you, NO Contact!

[roxy422505]

Thank you all for all responses, mi brain tells me that no contact it's the best way to go and that there's no point on hanging on to my feelings, I just have to keep my heart out of this... its true kctiger Im feeling very jealous, he also told me that I was being selfish because I wouldn't get back with him but I also didn't want him to be with anyone else, and that its also true, but I can't help it, we had such a strong relationship and when things ended up I was more into him than ever, so to know that he's with someone else probably telling her the things he used to tell me or doing the things we used to do, makes me hurt so bad that its even hard to breath. I know time it's the best medicine, wish it went by faster though.

[kctiger]

I know how you feel. It crushed me to see pics of my ex with another guy, but it is life. What doesn't kill you makes your stronger... it is just a painful way of life telling you it wasn't meant to be, and that the someone else is out there that, believe it or not, can make us a 1000 times happier than we ever were with our ex.

[bmckeever]

What u do is you tell that girl everything and most likely she will break up with him then he will no how you felt

[kctiger]

wat u do is you tell that girl everything and most likely she will break up with him then he will no how you felt

If you are still in fifth grade you can do this... what you do is forget about him and live your life. The best revenge is to be happier without him. Have fun, live life and you will find what you are looking for. He deserves no attention from you!