[likey1234]

Me and my boyfriend broke up about January 2008. We had been together almost a year but had had been together previous to this so it was on and off for some time and we both also had other partners in between but always ended up back to each other. So we have not been together for a year now and the reason why we really broke up was because of lots of arguments over this girl that I accused him of liking he always told me he never fancied her and that he loved me and all the rest but he is now with this particular girl and has been for a few months now. Recently I saw him again at a friends house and this was the first time since we had split up. It was a strange feeling and everything just came rushing back. He started bringing up stories about when we were together and we were sitting killing ourselves laughing at them and how stupid some of our arguments had been and it was kind of nice. We started getting closer and closer again and he even tried to hold my hand. Nothing big happened and after this night he started to text me and it was so nice being in touch with him. I then saw him another night at another friends where we were together all night and we had a big heart to heart talk and he told it felt like we had never split up the way were laughing and carrying on together. He told me that he hardly really sees this girl and they don't really talk much at all but appartently they are all loved up according to their Facebook profiles. I just don't get that. So we were texting and the odd time we would see each other at his friends or whatever, he kissed me one night as well but nothing too serious. Then all of a sudden he was totally different and was acting like he wasn't interested. We stopped texting for a while and the odd time he would text back. We text on xmas day to say merry xmas and that but that was about it. Even though we haven't been together for a year and I've had another boyfriend since we broke up I still love him a lot and I miss being with him and I just think if we were to give it another shot we would work it out. His current girlfriend just stands in the way of this and I don't know why is is with her really with the impression I got from him about their relationship was nothing compared to what we had and I don't see why he would throw everything we could have away to be with her. I don't know whether to keep trying and texting him but I get upset when he doesn't reply and I don't know how he feels about me or anything.

What do I do?

Helpppppppppppp

[Fr_Chuck]

Don't forget the reasons for the break up, often it is easy when you have no one else "at the moment" to get back with an ex, till you decide to move on again. Esp for guys it seems. And I am sure he is telling the other girl the same thing. Ex's are Ex's for a reason, so it is time to stop getting back in contact all the time, and really move on.

[talaniman]

To put it as nice as I can, your being played, kept around in the background for when he dumps this current partner. Those are not mixed signals your getting, but a leash keeping you tied close to him, with hope of him coming back. He is not confused, as he knows full well what he is doing.

The sad part is you let him, because for some reason you have an unhealthy attachment to this fellow, and are allowing him to do what he does, because your dependent on him.

His new partner is not stopping you from being together, he is, and you really need to see reality for what it is, and not through needy eyes. That's foolish.

Either break the cycle, and disappear from his life, and stop being used, or wait until he has time for you.