[Prestondvt]

How do I find someone to make me happy? I have trouble talking to girls. When my friends and I go out they always end up coming home with a girl, and I can't even get a girl to talk to me. What can I do to change that?

[NItEMArE129]

Don't try to "search" for the person of your dreams. If you're looking for it, you rarely find it. It's best to let nature go on its own course, but you can still tweak a little bit. Joke around a lot, smile, and have fun even if you can't get a date. Girls will notice this much more than a guy who just looks for dates and is disappointed if he can't find one.

[roxypox]

Yeah... don't search for a gril... just go with the flow.

How outgoing are you when you're out with your friends? Personally, the people who catch my eye are the type that seem to be enjoying themselves, and who seem outgoing (it doesn't need to be a lot outgoing its okay to be shy)

I wouldn't worry yet to find someone to make me happy.. first of I would try to talk to girls and find a way to master that and then try to find someone to click with... b\c you need to have more then one conversation to find someone you could be happy with... and when it comes to going home w girls... do your friends end up dating does girls or is it just a casual sex type of thing?

[simoneaugie]

[QUOTE=roxypox, do your friends end up dating does girls or is it just a casual sex type of thing?[/QUOTE]

No one can make you happy. You make yourself happy. To depend on the actions of others to make you feel anything is either co-dependence or use of others. I've made lots of guys "happy" but was just using them, as toys to make myself feel better.

A girlfriend is a friend who is a girl. A quick roll in the sheets is not a girlfriend, it's sex. Sex is good. But a relationship with someone can be far more than just sex. Where you meet is important too. Meeting in a noisy bar where you have gone to pick up a piece is probably a crappy way to begin a relationship.