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There is this grl that I like and I don't know what to do
OK there is this grl that I really like.. we have been best friends for 2 years. I want to ask her out because she is the world to me.. but I want to do it romanticly.. but I'm only 15 I can't afford an exspensive dinner.. but we go to the mall, movies and we always go boating together on my parents cruser yacht.. but I need help really bad we are getting to gether this weekend and was woundering if any body could help... htanks for your time :)
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If you think that the possibility exists that she may be interested in you as more than just a friend... Then, as hard as it may seem, you should share your heart with her. Do not just come right out and ask her or tell her. But, share your feelings with her. And don't say anything like... "It's ok if you don't feel the same" or anything like that. Women want some one who will be the Man. If you go pandering to her then you put her in the driver seat and believe me... women do NOT respect men who do that! I'm NOT saying that you be insensitive and cold. On the contrary, tell her how you feel. Risk being rejected. But if you are rejected, then you must show her that you are a Man by not allowing her to see that it has just crushed your entire world. Ya know what I mean? After all, her first instinct may be to reject the idea of something more than what you both already enjoy with one another out of fear that she'll lose the friendship that you have together. That is perfectly natural. But when she sees that you are not devastated by her response... over a little time, she may become more amiable to the idea. So, don't look at this like it's an "all or nothing, do or die, I only get one shot at this" situation. Women want strength and stability in a man, as well as sensitivity and a sense of humor. Show her all of these things and she'll likely fall in love with the idea of taking your relationship to another level in no time at all. |
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I agree that you might want to observe a little more closely about whether you think SHE likes you back as more than just a friend. And also, asking a girl out romanticly doesn't mean it has to be expensive. There are lots of ways that you could do it and make it romantic. For example, sitting outside at night and watching the stars. That's romantic. |
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Never make the mistake of carrying baggage from past relationships into a relationship with someone else. People are different. The main thing here is that YOU must be confident in who YOU are. You do not want to have to be someone that you aren't to please anyone. That simply will not work. If you are yourself and this girl already likes you for that, then you already have one of the best parts of a solid relationship... friendship. Sadly, most relationships (especially teenage ones) are not build on friendship, but on physical attraction. Let me tell you, physical attraction is nice, but it will only get you so far. And it certainly isn't something that you should expect to build a lasting relationship on. Don't be nervous. She already likes you for YOU and you already have a very good friendship on which to build. Just remember what I said, Strength and stability is what she can trust in. That means you have to be confident in who are... regardless of what she says or does. As for the girl who cheated on you... you have to look at it, not like you lost out and were victimized, but like SHE's missing out because she couldn't see you for the great person that you are. Again, I'm not saying that you take that to the extreme and become a stuck-up, self-centered, ego-maniac. But, it is very important that you know who you are, that you are confident in who you are, and that that confidence is not dependent upon anyone else. Otherwise, you cannot bring anything into any relationship that you can continually give. You will always "taking" rather than giving. What do I mean?? I mean that if you are looking for someone else to fulfill you, then you will always be taking from them what you need to feel complete... approval, encouragement, support, affection, or whatever. You need to recognize that you are complete in yourself... and then you bring all of your good qualities and strengths to the relationship to give to the other person. That doesn't mean that you never receive anything in return. In fact, you receive much more when you give, than if you are constantly having to take like that. I hope you understand what I'm saying. I wish you the best. |
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 Originally Posted by price1993
What I mean is, if she likes you bro, go for it, and if she says no, that's okay, nos only a word, it can't really hurt you But imagine how cool it would be if she says yes, trust me, it'll be hard core maaan |
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She picked it out and it was OK but she wanted to go see it... OK I got a prob... u know how when your friends wit somebody you can talk real easy? Well that was us but now since we are going out I can't think of one thing to talk about.. can you help me out?
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Well you've been friends for two years. It's never stopped you from chatting it up before, just because your dating now doesn't mean there's new rules and different boundaries. The rules and boundaries you've been playing with just expand. Don't think that you have to impress her because she already knows you, she knows your favorite sport, color, food, team etc... she knows if you're stronger weaker, faster, slower and she likes you who you are. No need to get this huge speech planned out or a way to talk to her. Be yourslef you've already won her over. Be yourself!
Good Luck and remember you're only 15. No need to rush into anything you two have the rest of your lives to talk! |
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I am engaged to my best friend. Her and I were friends for 8 years before we both realized we should be together. Now that we dated and are engaged she is still my best friend. Nothing has changed you are both the same people you were before she said yes to dating you. Talk about the same things you always use to talk about. You don't have to worry about sounding stupid in front of her because if you are like me you have already said and done stupid things when you were just friends. If she didn't run away from you then she isn't going to now. Usually when I say something stupid (which is everyday) I say something even more ridiculous just to make her laugh. Ask her about her day. Ask her about her family. Is she into sports or clubs at school ask her about that. Ask her if she is allergic to anything. What is her favorite food. Ask her what her favorite flowers are (AND REMEMBER WHAT HER FAVORITE FLOWERS ARE IT WILL COME IN HANDY!! ) Ask her if she wants to go to college and what one would she go to. Where is her favorite place to shop. Are you getting the idea yet? |
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Thank you guys for the help :) but like what I don't under stand is that we talk all day long with text but in person its hard... the reason we text is because she is verizen and I'm at&t and she lives in a diff county but we see each other every weekend and a few through the week |
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