[Milovanova143]

Why do mwn tend to get bored after a period? What is it gentlemen? What can we do to keep u intrigued?

[21boat]

Depends on the man and the age they are. Some men stray because they are conquest men and off to another conquest. Some men stray because too much nagging. Some stray because of the B.B.D. Bigger Better Deal Some men stray because of sexual boredom. Some men stray because the wrong head is to strong and just curious of other quarry or not get enough at home. As a man I feel That most men basically stray for two reasons. Women pick and nag and play the control game. Women are actually more competitive than men. Men are very nicely simple. Don't pick on me show me respect and don't make sex an issue and a control. The worst thing a women can so to a man too much is "not tonight I have a headache" I think its basic. Spoil the man and the man spoil the woman. To do that there has to be no picking and nagging on both ends. It seems society got so stuck on the equal thing like the government. To be totally equal means he or she has to be 100% for each other. And nobody can be off by 5% on the 50 50. I told one newly getting married couple. The paradox is if both get into an augment and can't resolve it. I or you can agree that you both totally disagree on this subject and that actually becomes an agreement. Life's fickle. And some aren't meant to be in a long term relationship nor women.

[Kickprivate]

Communication is key to good sex,

[stevetcg]

Because they aren't happy with what they have. Could be any reason. Might not even have anything to do with the woman. But to answer this question, answer the opposite - why do men stay? Or answer why do women stray?

Cause that's who they are and how they feel.

[Synnen]

Please use full sentences and proper English on the Adult Sexuality boards.

Chat speak is NOT allowed.

The word is "you" not "u".

If you cannot type without using chat speak, I will assume that you are too young to be on an adult board and delete your posts.

[talaniman]

No matter how bored I get, I still have never strayed, so some guys have no clue what you mean.

[smoothy]

Why do some guys get bored... sometimes its because of the woman... sometimes it's the guys own fault for not getting creative.

I've known some painfully boring women in bed. Some said nothing is going in MY mouth... some said nothing is going in MY butt... some said both...

What is common between them is they thought their cootchie was special and no man should ever tire of it, and its all any man should ever want or need. And that all they had to do was lay on their back and spread their legs.

Fact is if you do the same thing the same way long enough it gets boring... and when it gets boring interest will drift.

There is no excuse for not keeping things interesting for well beyond 20 years or more. But both people have to have an interest in keeping things interesting by trying new things and keeping an open mind.

I've done it for 17 years and there is no reason others can't as well.

[roxypox]

Well women stray sometimes as well... just wanted to throw it out there.

I have a friend (female) who warns every new love interest that she needs to be allowed to stray... she refuses to be exclusive...

My thoughts on it though is that it seems like a really sad existence either way... you have something and if you're not happy, why not do the other person a favor and cut them loose?

It shows a great deal of disrespect for the other person, and it doesn't really say something about you... but a great deal about the other person.

[SimpleguyJoe]

Why does anyone get bored with anything? If a book I'm reading is going at a slower pace then I would like I usually lose interest. The same applies to pretty much anything right?

Any interest requires at least 2 things in my book. (what a crappy pun!)
-Satisfaction
-Suprise

So with that in mind I think most relationships fail from lack of creativity, routine is only good in the gym... Things just get dull because they forget why they are really there in the first place.

Also it's not just men that stray. Women do it enough as well. Even better, they tend to blame the man for not thinking of new things for the "relationship" so really now were going back to the basics. Communicate a lot, communicate often, communicate to save yourself in the long run! Because in the end things getting dull is just a lack of everyone in the relationship voiceing their own needs. Or at least that's what I think.

[smoothy]

Oh I agree women stray as well, and for some of the same reasons and a few others (such as feeling intimacy)... Being a straight male I can only comment on other guys deficiencies based on what women tell me. And yes sometimes it's the guy that is a bore as well. Particularly the guy that whines and complains about getting anal but freaks out if she slips a finger up his butt during frisky play.

[Choux]

You have to understand that a woman *can be* much more than a sex object. In order to keep the interest of a husband or partner, you have to be an interesting woman in many areas of your life.

If he knows you are always at his service, he will lose interest in you because you are just a lap dog to be used and abused... depending. Men enjoy variety, men love the chase, men love having the best woman in the area of looks, accomplishments, character, sense of humor... women that make them look good. :) Women who eff them while having multiple orgasms but don't act like whores in public. :)

I'm talking to women who have something on the ball, not Jerry Springer type guests. :D


Remember, a man is supposed to please you, girl. Not the other way around.

[artlady]

Men who are serial cheaters say they stray because the woman made him feel appreciated.That is a big deal for a man,I really believe they need a lot of reassurance ,or ego stroking.

I also think some men just enjoy the chase and the feeling of scoring something.A lot of these chronic cheaters drop women as fast as they pursue them.Use um and lose um.

Women need to stop blaming themselves and know that if they are giving him what he desires sexually and taking care of his emotional needs ,if he cheats he's just a selfish jerk!

[plonak]

I think guys (NOT ALL) are very shallow and are never truly happy with what they have... it's a sad fact.. and honestly it disgusts me that they're like that..

If I ever catch one of my guys cheating on me, he will have hell to pay..

Like I have said in my other posts, sometimes men get me irate!! And sometimes I feel like I could live with out 'em! Hypocryts!!

[Handyman2007]

FRom personal experience I find that men AND women stray is because they weren't completely honest with themselves in the very beginning and both people have grown in different dirctions. We all change. Being open to change is one thing... ther are usually underlying issues that one or both of the partners are afraid to talk about for fear of rejection, hurting the other, etc.

[rebeccastrean22]

Most men stray because they do not want to think of the same thing. Most men are like kids their mond goes else where and there's nothing us girls can do about it so let him stray and when something happens take it from there but until then trust him and have faith in him not ALL MEN CHEAT AND NOT ALL MEN ARE WOMEN BEATERS!! So just stick with it but REMEMBER... communicate with him its GOOD TO DO THAT!!

[NewYork123]

Why is it always about sex? Men get bored when women start catering to their every need, always available, and are just plain mousy and needy. The woman should act independent of the man and he will respect her and keep him interested

[smoothy]

why is it always about sex? Men get bored when women start catering to their every need, always available, and are just plain mousy and needy. the woman should act independent of the man and he will respect her and keep him interested

Not exactly... few men will cheat on a woman who caters to their whims, needs or desires. And those few men would cheat on anyone.

And it has nothing to do with respect either. However nothing will get a man cheating faster than a moody woman, who complains incessantly or who would be considered "high maintenance". Or if she has an inordinate amount of "headaches".


Like I mentioned... there are a small percentage of both men and women who are predisposed to cheat and nothing can be done with them... but the vast majority of men and women aren't impressed by partners which exhibit arrogance or self centered behaviour. Or to feel ignored by their partners.