[satchal]

I have a step-son who is fairly a good kid but who gets into trouble at school on a regular basis. Although he has been spoken to and given consequences numerous times, he doesn't seem to care based on his attitude. Any suggestions?

[21boat]

How old is your stepson and what was his age when he became your stepson?

[uptheranch]

Hi there, I hope I can help you. I am a teacher and specialise in disruptive behaviour.

You must praise your stepson as well as tell him off when he is wrong. Make sure to keep them in even amounts. Also try your best to ignore the bad behaviour and only give him attention when he follows your rules.

Remind him that it is YOUR house and YOU make the rules. If he is not happy with that ask him why? Does he think he could rule the house. Fine - let him. Don't get him up, don't make breakfast, don't drive or give out any money. That is his job if he is so grown up.

Also, stay in regular contact with his school - perhaps there is something you could come up with together to reward the positive behaviour. I find that in my school, support from home is essential.

[21boat]

I agree with uptheranch But I would like to add "ignore his bad behavior" might not work to a point if that behavior is for attention and to get a reaction from you. However, many parents ignored there kids bad behavior in the wrong way and now they can't understand what went wrong after the police called there home to say there sons is in jail. Hang in there! Aways let him know you love him and don't enable him and be very clear why you got mad at him. Always nicely remind him it was HIS CHOICE to be the way he is. No one made him make his own bad decisions. Your house/ Your rules. Simple. Don't get sucked into his game. Tuff Love is very hard.