[deepestdark1980]

Thank you all for your responses! I am quite usrprised. I know it is not a straight forward question BU I guess that one of my itentions was to just get it out there... and what d'you know.. some good pratical advice has come from it.

I think Jake2008's advice to write it down is soemthing I tried but I never persevered but I will try again.. I guess that if I really want to get over this I need to take the effort and time to do the work needed.
I he's rigth! Letting go would be amazingly liberating and this is what I want more than anything.

I am leavign for my parents in less than a week.. it is the first time I have seen them in a year so we will see what happens.. Historian Chick makes a good point in saying that I don't have to put up with anything if I don't want to... I suppose I am always hoping that next time thinsg will be different.. but sating that I should go into every situation open minded not expecting the worst.

I hope more people post on here because hearing youir different views gives me ideas and views I might not have thought of before.. so cheers all... have a great Xmas and thank you for your advice!

[Susitha]

Hi

The past pain needs to be healed. In therapy when you heal an issue you must ensure that it is healed, by reliving the memory. If you can re live the memory and feel calm about it, it is healed.

This pain may appear more intense at times and you may forget about it at other times. But it is always inside you. It will effect yourself esteem, your relationships and every aspect of your life.

Make a commitment to work on the past issues for the next 3 months and I assure you, you will feel much better.

If you need details on how to do this, let me know

Susitha
Law of Attraction, EFT and The Law of Attraction,Laws of Attraction,abundance and prosperity

[KBC]

... I suppose I am alwasy hoping that next time thinsg will be different.. !

I have looked at my first few posts to you and I need to apologize,I was not correct in jumping your case.:(

I am very happy to see your new outlook towards this situation though.:)

The quote above brings this to mind.

The short definition of insanity.

Doing the same things, expecting different results.

In order for the 'next time' to be different something has to change.

You can change what you do,but not what others do.Change has to start at home.

I am a firm believer in setting boundries as they will allow you to see the necessity for change and how to go about doing it.

Setting Personal Boundaries - protecting self

This site has really helped me to not allow others to belittle me,to allowing me to stand my ground and achieve my goals,without compromising what I stand for.

Your stance on the family issues would be easier for you if you set undeniable boundries.Others will see you in a different light and respect you for who and what you are.

I hope you look at that site and continue to reply as the need arises.I know this has helped others who come in here(AMHD) and I am sure it will help you also.

KBC