[mdc250]

I have a son with Aspergers and I wonder if my husband has it too. Do all Aspies have to be focused on one topic? My husband is not focused on one subject rather he matches the emotional connection. We have been married for almost ten years. Our biggest fight has been his lack of affection. When I tell him over and over that I need to be hugged and cuddled he gives me excues. He's working on it or its hard to hug me when we argue.When I fold his laundry he say that I don't have to fold it why don't I use my time to do other things around the house. He never seems too excited about sex. I have told him that I would like it if he would let me know if he is interested and his reply will be why don't you let me know. He almost got annoyed when I sat on his lap. He was doing homework with our son so he couldn't put his arms around me. Then he speeched me on where his lap is verses where his knee is. I guess I was sitting incorrectly. I really need help with this. It is so hard to get close to this man. I have been slipping into a depression thinking that its me. Help

[Wondergirl]

There is a huge spectrum (range) that is termed Asperger's. Poor or no eye contact, concrete thinking, no kissing or touching (i.e. no affection), inability to empathize, few or no friends, little or no emotional connection, repetitive motions (pacing, rocking, hand/arm shaking, swaying), fierce focusing on one thing to the point of ignoring everything else, seeing only the superficial (the forest, not the trees), poor social skills, odd humor, little or no spontaneity, may plan things to death. Here is a test that might help you define AS --

Wired 9.12: Take The AQ Test