[bigbadrrrm]

OK I'm 19 years old I just had a baby it is a boy OK the problem is I was with two guys around the time I got pregnant I broke up with my boyfriend and got with the other guy well the boyfriend I'm with now is the one I want to be the baby's dad but my mom don't she hates my boyfriend I have says he is unfit because he has been in jail over fighting before my mom is trying to say I have to make a choice between keeping my son in my life or losing my son and keeping my boyfriend I want to keep them both the onky thing is I live with my mom what do I do or does anyone even understand what I'm saying can my mom keep my boyfriend from seeing my son if he isn't the father

[N0help4u]

FIRST you need to establish who the father is. Get a paternity test.
If your boyfriend is the father then he has rights and YOU are the mother so it doesn't matter too much what your mother wants.
You need to work together and show you both have grown up and are being responsible then maybe your mother won't be so upset.
The worst she could do is drag you through court to try and prove you are an unfit mother. She can not legally simply take your baby

[Fr_Chuck]

First it does not matter who you 'want" to be the father, you have to get a DNA test and findout who the father is, then you get a court orderred custody order and set up child support.

And of course in the long run your mom has no say, since you are a adult, but ai will guess you have no job and live at home

[liz28]

Your mom is only trying to make you make good decisions because it is no longer about you. Every choice you make not only affects you but your son as well.

You can't just pick who you want to be the father when two guys are involved. If you wanted to pick the father before hand you should've only slept with one guy.

So you want your boyfriend to be the father? What happens if the two of you break-up? Then the next guy that comes along will be the father?

Since your unsure about who the father is, you can solve this mystery by getting a DNA test.

Right now your not thinking as a mother but only thinking of yourself. You can't be treated as an adult when your acting like a child so it's time to grow up and do the right things.

Being an adult is not only about the right decisions but is about dealing with the decisions that we make. Each decision should be thoughly thought out. You need to set goals for yourself and start making a plans for your future and set a time frame for each one and show your mom that your capable of making good decisions.

So get a DNA test, set goals, and remember your son is number 1. Remember you stated your current boyfriend isn't good for you, and those are your own words, so if you can say that can you really be upset with your mom about not accepting this situation?