[Ruislip]

Have recently split up with a g/f after 7yrs soon after having a kidney removed with cancer. I've got the all clear now but feel lonely as I miss the companionship of being in a relationship. I’d just like to meet and date again and be more sociable. As I don’t drink going to pubs is not my thing. I’m not a clubber either and use the gym t work so I’m finding it difficult meeting new people . I’m a positive and strong minded person, athough possessing excellent diplomacy skills so feel I’m a good catch! LOL. Have always dated people I have known socially so have never done the ‘pick-up; scene.

What advice could you give re a natural route to meeting women for friendship and possibly more that’s not sordid or tacky?

[Ber Rabbit]

Why not find some volunteer work to do? There are tons of organizations that use volunteers, you can probably find one that does something near and dear to your heart.

Another option might be to take a class of some sort, cooking, rock climbing, art, anything you can think of to get you out of your normal routine.
Ber

[ZoeMarie]

yeah, you try taking some classes. I don't know how you feel about meeting people online, but my brother was in a similar situation; doesn't like going out to bars a whole lot (and meeting people at bars sometimes isn't the best idea anyway), he works a lot. He signed up with eharmony and he met a really nice girl on there. My brother-in-law met his fiancée (they're getting married in January) on match.com. Just some more ideas for you =) volunteering is always a good idea too though! Not only are you doing something good, but you're meeting new people at the same time.

[Fr_Chuck]

Home depo, hang out there, women without men come in to buy things, don't know what they are doing, you offer a little advice and if you don't get a date you may get a hanyman job to earn a few extra bucks.

But yes seriously there was a radio program a few week ago, to be honest I laughed at it, but what the heck when to home depo and had a date within a hour, plus picked up a few good sales items.

But there are online places like eharrony, that is the very best, I was shocked at the number of dates I got off it, dozens if I had wanted all of them. Yahoo Personals, not as good for me but it works, Craigs lists is another sourse.

[450donn]

What are your hobbies? Find a club or group for your favorite hobby, and join in. You might be surprised at how many people of the opposite sex might have the same hobby.

[ZoeMarie]

How about hobby lobby? I actually see quite a few guys when I go in there and of course there are women in there. While you're there you could find something to work on? They have all kinds of unfinished wood items that you could paint or stain for gifts for the holidays.

[c215dhx]

You guys are great! The home depo one was hilarious but somewhat inciteful! London is a strange place so cruising home depo stores will be kind of weird! Guess I'll just have to bite the bullet and get myself out there!

[DoulaLC]

I have to agree with the Home Depot actually... lol. I have had it happen twice now where someone has come up to me to strike up a conversation... the first question from one was whether I was single.
c215dx... give Home Base a try... :) It really is a matter of just getting yourself out there... even though you may be uncomfortable at first. Check out places of interest... museums, the parks, clubs, etc... there are plenty in London.