[BlackVY]

Hey ppls...

Quickly... Posted a lot of stuff on here... about my relationship with this girl...

Now we have been fighting 6 days straight and she did something very very bad, so I told her I can't marry her in March... push it back till I feel better about things and stuff... but she has been fighting with her family who doesn't want her with me, so now she is very upset and doesn't feel loved, so she wants to leave.

When I say leave, I mean leave this state, the country or something, she wants to go somewhere else and start a new life by herself..

Now I love her, and I don't want her to go, but she doesn't feel loved, but I can't help it, what she did was seriously very bad and I just can't force myself to marry her in March, but how can I make her feel loved?

She tells me she needs support because she was fighting with her family last night about us and stuff, and she wanted me to support her this morning, but I don't know what to do right now, because I'm still upset about what she did. It only happens like 3 days ago... So what do I do? Please help...

She is at home, got her bags packed, not answering her phone but she is e-mailing me every few minutes... what can I do? What can I say?

[TrueFaith]

Geeez man tell us what she did!

I can't just say OK it was really bad yeah your right..
Because I have heard a lot of messt up things

Like one guy got pisst at his girl. Because she did not take out the TRASH

So. Don't beat around the damn bush. And tell us what it was.. that you think was so very very bad?


Did she cheat on you? If so Bye BYE!
Did she steal from you?


And yeah she leaving the state? Sounds pretty childish to me.

She probable just wants you to chase after her.
But remember the second you said you did not want to have the wedding you knew there would be a reaction.

One must always be ready, and also mean what they stay.
And stand by it! As well.


Don't bother. Emailing her.. or that. Because if she acts like a kid? Why would you want someone like that in your life.

But as I said. I can't really give my full opinion here as I have no idea what the bad thing was.

So tell me you muppet :) and then most of us can say

Well yeah let her go!
Or what are you doing man!


Can I just say you have pisst me off. For not telling us what it was that she did
You have any idea how important that stuff is! For people to give there opinion on..

All I got was this..


Yeah she did something bad

She is leaving.


You might as well have written that! For all the good your post did!

ARGH!

Anyway. Feel free to shed some light on this

Anyway I'm guessing she cheated on you. Or kissed a guy. If that is the case
Then let her sod off with her new life.
And you start a new one for yourself!

[BlackVY]

After I saw her one night, when we were having problems, after I left, she went outside and spoke to her ex boyfriend who was calling her, saying he was outside her house, she just went out with the intention of talking to him, because she left alone, but ended up going out to a bar with him, getting drunk, then when he took her home, he kissed her... she said she got mad with him and tried to stop him, but she was too drunk and was not in control of the situation, so they kissed... and this is the guy I hate more than anyone on earth because he has caused us lot of problems before...

[AManWithNoName]

If it isn't working, it isn't working, thers nothing you can do about it

[BlackVY]

We've both been trying to make it work, but she's been depressed, got sick, lost her job and we've had family problems, plus she has social anxiety... really think its time to give up?

[TrueFaith]

well I'm sorry tell her. To have fun packing her bags

and maybe in her new life. She won't use the.. OH MY GOD I WAS DRINKING! I didn't mean it! Cry cry... crap.. better


get rid of this women! First! She spoke to her X. not good. 2nd she went out to a bar with him!! I mean what typ of intention is that. And she was drinking?

you know what I think. I think all he did was kiss her. And that was it. Then she tells you she got all mad.

but I bet. He could have probable done a lot worse if he wanted to.

There are no 2nd chances for this one man. And if you do take her back after this.
then you're a fool :)

was not in control of the situation! My A@@
she went out with the guy didn't she? She was walking? I mean you need some control to do that don't you?


That guy has caused you no problems!

she has.. as she has allowed him to be in her life! All this time.

Tell the girl. Right.. to sod off.

how dare she try and make you feel guilty for this!

End it! As the trust is gone
and the X will always be in the shadows as a back up.
and I don't care who she blames it on. If she can't be a women and stand up for the mistakes she has made
she is not worth your time.

I mean your not going to go out sleep or kiss your x. and blame it on the dog are you?
bottom line she did this to her self

it's a good job you didn't marrie her.


So my advice

break it off.

[AManWithNoName]

Here's the thing that you need to ask abou, do you think its time, listen to this song don't wach the video YouTube - Mark Collie-In Time (Punisher Soundtrack)

[BlackVY]

Thanks guys...

She did do the whole cry cry thing... she told me she'd do anything to make it work, I said I'd think about it, and the next day she calls me saying she is depressed and feels so bad and another fight starts, the day after she tells me she kissed this guy! 6 days of continuous fighting must be record or something...

I don't know what she is thinking or doing now... ain't heard from her in about 30min by e-mail and her phone is still off, so we'll see what happens...

[N0help4u]

Tell her to do what she feels she has to do because you can not stop her from feeling the way she does. Tell her you love and support her and want to be with her but at this point you feel your hands are tied because she is so unsure about things. That maybe she should take a break from everybody and everything and clear her head and then let you know.
She sounds like she is letting everybody influence her too much.

[TrueFaith]

I would get rid of her.
but it is up to you

she kissed her X
and said she was drunk and it was not her fault. She was not in control.

[BlackVY]

Thanks again... I'm sending her an e-mail now... don't know if she will reply, of even read it... but we'll see... I'll say what I got to say... and whateva happens, happens...

[AManWithNoName]

Thanks again... I'm sending her an e-mail now... don't know if she will reply, of even read it... but we'll see... I'll say what I gotta say... and whateva happens, happens...

That's riight, great job bro

[BlackVY]

All done... sent her an e-mail, not an angry one, just telling her that whateva she chooses, I'll support her and I know whateva she decides to do, she has thought about it. In the end, I just want her to do what's best for her, because I do truly love her, and her happiness means more to me than my own, so that's it. We'll see what happens, if she replies or not... Will keep you guys posted... Thanks again... :(

[N0help4u]

Give her time and space. Maybe if she gets alone she will realize where all she has gone wrong and how much she has allowed others to confuse her. Maybe she will want you back maybe she won't but whatever happens is probably for the best.

[neverme]

BlackVY you did the right thing. If you love her let her go... bla bla bla its true though. You'll know for sure now. Not easy though, stay strong.

[BlackVY]

Thanks ppls... I sent her a long e-mail telling her the choice is hers... I think she has calmed down a lot, and asked me in an sms message what would happen if she stayed... I told her I didn't know, but if she did stay, we'd have to work things out for sure... and if she ain't up for that, then she shouldn't decide to stay... its all up to her now...

[TrueFaith]

tell her to cut the X out of her life for good
if you find them talking or anything

you are done.

even if its him running after her. You tell to tell him. That that is it!
you don't want to hear. Oh but its not me its him he runs after me

B.S! She lets it.. so tell her! Or you will never be happy

and tell her to never use I was drink. Ever again.
because your not a moron.

[BlackVY]

tell her to cut the X out of her life for good
if you find them talking or anything

you are done.

and tell her to never use i was drink. ever again.
because your not a moron.

Yeah... well, when she told me about what she did and stuff, she told me she doesn't want to ever talk to this guy again... she was just lonely and stuff, but she knows its wrong and will never do it again.

She told me she will never drink again, without me there. She kind of realized she is not in control of herself and she doesn't make the right choices and decisions. Her own words were that she has made a lot of mistakes and hurt me a lot, and she doesn't want to do that anymore... but then the next day, we started fighting about something again...

[TrueFaith]

Words mean nothing

Action my friend. Is what you need to see.

Tell her you don't want to hear anything! You just want to see it! And feel it.

I personaly think you should let her go
But if you want to give it another go
Then all the luck in the world to you.

She just always uses the. Its not me it's the drink or something else.

It is a Red Flag sign. You do know that.

Best of luck

Regards

[N0help4u]

I think she needs to get a break and get her head together before you make any decisions. Like Truefaith said actions speak louder than words. It is going to take time to see her 'actions' because she is so deep in her confusion at the moment.