[LILMONICA]

:confused:Ok where do I start.. I'll try to make this long story short. I've been with my "boyfriend" for 2yrs now and I just had a baby 5 months ago. I love my boyfriend soooooo much but 2 weeks ago he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore. I wanted to know why? What did I do? Ok I do everything for this guy I mean EVERYTHING! I did from the start and until now. I wake up at 5am make him coffee make warm up his car! Yes warm up his car OK.. and I take care of our son make dinner clean iron wash everything! And mind I've been doing this since we moved in together. Anyway he wouldn't tell me why he does not want to be with me anymore so I kept asking finially he told me a few days ago its because I have no job. I have been looking ever since I had my son. Sometimes I have no idea how I got pregnant he won't even give me that lol! I don't ask him for anything I mean ANYTHING I still have clothes form jr high lol believe it or not, its sad. We don't ever go anywhere we live with my dad and he only pays my dad $500. And he makes $25 an hour. So I don't know he's still here and I'm still being dumb and doing everything for him and I love him sooooo much I want him to love me to we share a special wonderful son together. I told him all I want from you is your love that's it nothing else.. He ignores me NEVER talks to me its like I'm not here.its so sad and it really hurts! :(

[N0help4u]

Sounds like you need to figure out what exactly it is you love about him. Doesn't sound like he gives you much reason to love him. You can't make somebody love you if they don't. Sounds like maybe he is taking you for granted. I have learned the more you do for a guy the more they take you for granted. Let him go. If he doesn't want to be with you then he needs to move out of your dads house
There is the saying 'If you love something let it go. If it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't it never was'

[kimsland]

Because N0help4u is attached to this thread, I can't tell you how angry I am at some guy leaving you with the 5mth old baby

GGGrrrrrrrrr :mad:
GRRRRrrrrr (I was going to write something, but I stopped, good for me!)

[talaniman]

Evict him, and get child support. Then you can love your son, and not be made miserable by this loser, who doesn't know how good he has it.

[TrueFaith]

My dear! Use that LOVE on someone that should have it!

Like your wonderful Babey!

This guy. I mean.. coming from a guys point of view.. We Would KILL for someone like you. That makes us coffie and warms up our cars? I mean wow :)

Get rid of this loser. The only good thing he did was giving you a baby.

Kick his out. Make him pay child suport

How dare someone tell you that. After you just had his kid!
I can't imagen. A thing more hurtful than that.

Stay strong!

All the best

[liz28]

What a winner this guy is. He goes half on a baby with you and then decides he wants to leave due to you not having a job, wouldn't that make him want to stay with you more to help support you and your child? That was a lie and he said that to put you down.

Don't ever do everything for a guy because that is how you lose yourself and you see no matter how much you did that won't keep him around.

Then he has the nerve to dump you while he lives with you in your dad's house. He's lucky that wasn't my dad because he would've gladly kicked him out. Pack his things and put him out and don't let him spend another day in the house.

[artlady]

What does this guy think you do all day?

Does the car warm itself up does the baby care for himself does the coffee fairy bring him his coffee?

Being a stay at home Mom is the hardest job there is and many men would be hard put to manage it.

How does he expect you to look for a job in your raggedy old clothes from junior high?

Sounds like you have given him the impression by your loving care of him and his home and child that you can do anything so why not add a job or I should say second job to the mix! Excuse the sarcasm but I'm going off on a rant here.

He sounds immature and selfish and not ready to accept his responsibilities.

I think you need to stop babying him.

I also think he needs to know that we are in a recession and jobs are not easy to find and you may be working 40 hrs. a week for not much pay after you are done paying for childcare (which is just so expensive).

If you do want to stay at home and bring in income perhaps you could babysit another child in the home for a few hours a day.Its a good way to get a few extra dollars and you get to stay with your baby during these very important times in his life.

Stop babying him and tell him the way it is and maybe after you get on your feet a little bit you will feel better about finding someone who appreciates you ! Best of luck and Enjoy your little one :)... its over before you know it!

[LILMONICA]

Thank u!! I so glad that someone see it the way I do. I wish he would though, but he won't till its to late. Thank you thank you I feel a little better :)

[LILMONICA]

Wow u all made me feel so much better :) I thought no one understood what I am going through how much this really hurts me. I wake up everyday hoping that it was all a nightmare, and that he still wants to be a family together but its all really :( But thank u all u guys put a smile on my face today :) a real smile :) Thank u all again!

[liz28]

You and your child deserves better and watch when your out of his life how quick he tries to win you back. Some people don't realize what they have until it's gone.

Your too pretty to get stres out over him. The only person that should be stressing you out is your handsome son. F+#% him! Make sure you get child support.

[Jake448]

Honestly yeah, I must agree with the other people on this thread. A guy who can do something like this to you is not the guy you deserve, it's that simple. He really is taking you for granted and all the things that you do, you are very beautiful and deserve somebody better.